Living Chastity

1. 2. 3. 4. Know why you want to waitbe educated about chastity. Be bold and vocal about your decisionprepared for peer pressure. Find a friend and mentor to support yoube held accountable. Be selective about whom you date and your friendsfind people who encourage you. 5. Leave un-healthy relationships and find support to not return. 6. Communicate openly about sex, respect and chastity early in a relationship. 7. Set physical limits/boundaries with each person you date. 8. Plan dates to avoid surprise situations where you might be uncomfortable. 9. Avoid the use of drugs and alcoholthey decrease your ability to make good choices. 10. Avoid movies, activities and music that are sexually oriented or explicit. 11. Avoid long periods of time alone and the strong temptation to be sexually active. 12. Never view pornographywhich completely devalues sex & makes women into objects for pleasure only. This is very damaging to healthy sexuality. 13. Think of your future spouse at tempting moments. 14. Confess when you faileither in small ways or big ways. 15. Stay close to Godseek His help: PRAY (this most important)!

Men:

Dont fall for stereotypesbecoming a man is not connected with sex. Ignore guys who make fun of you. Encourage women to dress modestlycompliment a lady for her personality and when shes in sweats, not just when shes wearing something sexy. Use sexual energy in healthy wayssuch as sports, hobbies, etc.

Women:

Be prepared to answer stupid lines: o If you love me you would do itIf you love me, you wouldnt pressure or ask. o Everybody else is doing itGood, then it will be easy to find someone else. o Dont you love meYeah, thats why Im saying no. And, I love God and respect myself more. o I wont get you pregnant or give you a diseaseExactly, because I wont have sex with you. o I might marry youGood, then we can enjoy this on our wedding night. o If you dont, Ill move onNice knowing you, bye bye. Dress appropriatelylive modestly, from the inside out. When we dress provocatively, it is very difficult for men to see us as whole people, instead of just

a few body parts. We deserve complete respectnot to be looked at as an object or abused in a guys mind.