Revelation: The Education of a Priest

REVELATION

The Education of a Priest

Dale Coleman

Foreword by Randall Balmer

REVELATION

The Education of a Priest

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Table of Contents

Title Page

Permissions

Foreword

Preface

Acknowledgments

Part One: Matins

I

II

III

IV

V

VI

VII

VIII

IX

X

XI

XI

XII

XIII

XIV

XV

XVI

XVI

XVII

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XXI

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XXIII

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Part Two: Angelus

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XXVI

Excursus on the Church Militant

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Bibliography

To Cheetah

Who is rarely happy with anything

unless it’s her idea,

and who is marginally happy with this

Sine Qua Non

THE COLLAR

I struck the board, and cried, ‘No more!

I will abroad.

What? shall I ever sigh and pine?

My lines and life are free; free as the road,

Loose as the wind, as large as store.

Shall I be still in suit?

Have I no harvest but a thorn

To let me blood, and not restore

What I have lost with cordial fruit?

Sure there was wine

Before my sighs did dry it : there was corn

Before my tears did drown it.

Is the year only lost to me?

Have I no bays to crown it?

No flowers, no garlands gay? all blasted?

All wasted?

Not so, my heart: but there is fruit,

And thou hast hands.

Recover all thy sigh-blown age

On double pleasures: leave thy cold dispute

Of what is fit, and not. Forsake thy cage,

Thy rope of sands,

Which petty thoughts have made, and made to thee

Good cable, to enforce and draw,

And be thy law,

While thou didst wink and did not see.

Away; take heed:

I will abroad.

Call in thy death’s head there: tie up thy fears.

He that forbears

To suit and serve his need,

Deserves his load.’

But as I raved and grew more fierce and wild

At every word,

Me thoughts I heard one calling, ‘Child!’

And I replied, ‘My Lord!’

George Herbert

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Foreword

Had circumstances unfolded slightly differently—or, in theological nomenclature, had providence allowed—my path might have crossed with Dale Coleman’s far earlier in life than it did. We were both born the same year (1954) and spent our childhoods steeped (mired?) in what I have called the evangelical subculture, this vast and interlocking network of institutions contrived in the middle decades of the twentieth century to keep children like us from being tainted by the larger culture, which our parents regarded as both corrupt and corrupting.

Both Dale and I are preacher’s kids—PKs, in the lingo of the subculture—my father in the Evangelical Free Church of America and Dale’s parents, both of them, in the Salvation Army. It’s very likely that Dale and I unknowingly squared off on opposing teams in junior high football in Bay City, Michigan, in the mid-1960s—flag football, it turns out, because the school system could not afford pads or helmets. In any case, we both cheered our beloved Detroit Tigers to victory in the 1968 World Series against the St. Louis Cardinals. Our paths might have crossed again in Iowa thereafter, where our families moved after Michigan, but neither of us recalls such a meeting. The evangelical subculture often feels constricting to those on the inside, but it is also, as I said, vast.

Something far more consequential than coincidence was unfolding in both of us in ensuing years, something that would eventually bring us together. We were growing impatient with the barren sacramentalism within evangelicalism, yearning, sometimes without words to express it at the time, for a more substantial, historically connected expression of the Christian faith, one uncorrupted by the cult of personality that so often afflicts evangelical congregations.

Albeit through slightly different routes, both Dale and I found our way to the Episcopal Church. When I’m asked how an evangelical like me became an Episcopalian, I typically respond with two semi-flippant answers. It was, I say, a reaction to the aesthetic deprivation of my childhood. I also grew tired of the evangelical cult of novelty.

Dale Coleman’s response to that question is far more nuanced and sophisticated than mine, and the details of his pilgrimage are found in these pages. It is a wonderful and engaging story, told with honesty, intelligence, and humor.

The narrative that follows is also discursive, and therein lies its real merit. Readers will chortle at the dead-on descriptions of pretentious prelates and their sartorial excesses, but they will also be instructed by the author’s learned reflections about liturgy, music, and theology.

How and when did our paths finally cross? After much prayer, deliberation, and discernment, I decided late in middle age, to pursue ordination in my adopted Episcopal Church. The parish that sponsored me was Church of the Holy Faith, in Santa Fe, New Mexico. Its rector was the irrepressible Dale Coleman. We’ve been friends, kindred spirits, and fellow travelers ever since.

Randall Balmer

Feast of the Holy Name

January

1

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2019

Preface

Near the end of my senior year at Nashotah House, Dean John Samuel Ruef glared at me during lunch in the refectory, and said with some disdain, Coleman, I imagine you will write about your time here. You’re just the kind boorish person to do it. He had a point with his premonition. I have wanted to write about growing up in the Salvation Army and seminary days for years. I have wished for forty years as a priest the day would come to do this, and serve the Christian church by reminding us who we are. There are two and a half billion Christians around the world today, not including snake-handlers, who set themselves on the credal tradition of the Nicene Creed, something almost totally forgotten in the United States. In fact, much of what passes as the Christian faith would go unrecognizable to the huge majority of baptized Christians who have handed down to our age generation to generation. The Episcopal Church, in which I serve, has been undergoing an enormous doctrinal amnesia, even strangely forgetting the one who said to us, Do this in Remembrance of me. This church is my church, my people, my heritage. When I needed our Lord’s presence in my life, this is the Church He showed me in which to grow and serve. Reading through what I have written, it was crystal clear to me that God used several remarkable devout Christians to lead me to where I am today, most of them Episcopalian. I will be ever grateful for this Church taking me in, and revealing to me that I was called by the Lord Himself to be a priest in His Church.

Martin Luther once said that the first evangelist in our lives, was our mother. So it was for me. I learned the name of Jesus from my mother, Eva Roberts Coleman. But the church she knew, and in which I was reared was weird. The Salvation Army is one of the strangest of churches which call themselves Christian. They wear faux Victorian British Military Band uniforms. And they all march around with a finger up in the air pronouncing they’re number one. Lift up the Army banner, Blood and Fire is one of their songs. I grew up in this sect, knowing all along since about age nine, something was wrong. My mind, my questioning, my asking obvious questions about what the hell we were doing playing E flat tenor horns, were all suppressed. (I was made to play one for a couple years, and gave up. My parents then decided I would take accordion lessons. I kid you not. To them, the Holy Spirit loves oom pah pah.) I handled this emotionally, actually in my very self, my soul, by developing such a strange sense of humor, that the only company in which I can think where it is understood, is Jewish. And one other.

I am grateful to the messengers God sent to guide me to the full, sacramental Christian faith, which I hold dear: Professor Jim Moody, Professor George Anastaplo, Senator John Sherman Cooper, Professor Stan Henning, Professor Robert Booth Fowler, Fr. Wayne Smith, Fr. Joseph Hunt, Fr. Bob Cooper, Preacher Will Campbell, Archbishop Michael Ramsey, Archbishop Joseph Augustine DiNoia, Professor Stanley Hauerwas, Bishop Tom Wright, Pastor Ron Neustadt. I call them saints. Siri Hustvedt in The Sorrows of an American calls them ghosts. But enough about her.

Several friends have assisted me in my own Christian life: Fr. Aiden (Al) Kimel, Professor David Bentley Hart, Fr. Ralph McMichael, Sr. Grace Mueller.

It was after being turned down by several publishing houses, Fr. Randall Balmer, whose friendship I treasure, urged me to send my typescript to Wipf and Stock. Matthew Wimer, Jim Tedrick, and George Callihan have been wonderful, courteous, thoughtful gentlemen, and I am happy Wipf and Stock is bringing out this memoir. Randy’s Foreword is as generous and wonderful and articulate as his work. I am deeply thankful for his kindness. He could have told me this before I had been subjected to some horrific rejections. Just saying.

Two wonderful young women in my life have encouraged me for years to write. They are intelligent, thoughtful, talented, loving. They are my two daughters, Jacquelyn Grace Coleman, and Gillian Michal Coleman. They are as loyal and caring and independently minded as any father would wish for.

The parish I have served for nearly twelve years, St. George’s Episcopal Church, welcomed me to serve as their rector, at a very low point in my life. They took me in, and helped heal me, most especially in expecting me to be a priest in the Church of Christ. They occasionally inform me of my sins, which I don’t like, but desperately need, in this reconciling community. We are sinners saved by God’s grace. They gave me the opportunity to write. Mostly.

I have dedicated this book to a smart, droll, intelligent lady, with a mind as quick as a flash. She is a totally beautiful person, with healing in her wings. I had begun to write first eighty pages, and then nearly two hundred, in order to settle scores. She let me know bluntly how foolish that would be, and what about being called as a priest? What about expressing my faith in God? What about allowing this to be a teaching opportunity about the beliefs and life in the Church Catholic? What about proclaiming my faith in Christ Jesus which at an increasingly dark time in our nation’s and church’s lives needs hope? I resisted for awhile. I thought what planet is she from? At least 95% of life is score settling. And that’s in the church. On several occasions she challenged what I had written, and told me to go to hell. She has been a lovely and bracing muse, and this is very much her book as mine. But I am responsible for the final product. As a follower of Heidegger once said, What I have written, I have written. It’s even better in Heidegger’s German, "Was ich geschrieben habe, das habe ich geschrieben." It sounds a lot like John Macquarrie, even Ayn Rand. But no.

This is more an out of my life and thought. It is a confession as St. Augustine used the word, as St. Paul, John Henry Newman, Albert Schweitzer, Garry Wills have written. Not Rousseau or Ben Franklin. It was coincidental to my muse’s strictures, while reading Stanley Hauerwas’ Hannah’s Child, I came to the realization I did want to write about my vocation to which I had been called. I am like him in being more Aristotelian than Platonist about the Church for which our Lord gave His life. I attempted to reach Stanley, and one morning out of the blue I got a phone call with a voice that I thought was Ross Perot’s. Yikes! After ten minutes or so, I said, Jesus Christ, you’re Stanley Hauerwas!. That’s what I said, offered Mr. Perot. He had read half of what I had written and he was calling me a short time before knee surgery to tell me he liked the story. Stick with it. Get an editor. Professional. I got an editor and he cut 25% out of my memoir. I’m quite sure this is not what this brusque erudite backwoods Texas Methodist had in mind. But he made my day. He’s wonderful! And Time magazine thinks so! Who am I to argue with Time magazine? But I want to see what was cut out of his book.

Last thing. There is a passage in Newman’s last of his University Sermons which I find scintillating about the Catholic Church’s development of doctrine based on responding to heresy. It is to me a wise and intricately thought out view, which may be revealing about this One, Holy, Catholic, and Apostolic Church, Christ’s Body, which I love. Newman wrote about the Arian heresy:

What a remarkable sight it is, almost all unprejudiced persons will admit, to trace the course of the controversy, from its first disorders to its exact and determinate issue. Full of deep interest, to see how the great idea takes hold of a thousand minds by its living force, and will not be ruled or stinted, but is ‘like a burning fire’, as the Prophet speaks, ‘shut up’ within them, till they are ‘weary of forbearing, and cannot stay’, and grows in them, and at length is born through them, perhaps in a long course of years, and even successive generations; so that the doctrine may rather be said to use the minds of Christians, than to be used by them. Wonderful it is to see with what effort, hesitation, suspense, interruption—with how many swayings to the right and to the left—with how many reverses, yet with what certainty of advance, with what precision in its march, and with what ultimate completeness, it has been evolved; till the whole truth ‘self—balanced on its centre hung’, part answering to part, one absolute, integral, indissoluble, while the whole world lasts! Wonderful, to see how heresy has but thrown that idea into fresh forms, and drawn out from it farther developments, with an exuberance which exceeded all questioning, and a harmony which baffled all criticisms, like Him, its Divine Author, who, when put on trial by the Evil One, was but fortified by the assault, and is ever justified in His sayings, and overcomes when He is judged.

And this world of thought is the expansion of a few words, uttered, as if casually, by the fishermen of Galilee . . . 

Dale Coleman

Feast of the Holy Name

January

1

,

2019

Acknowledgments

I wish to thank the following:

For the excerpt from T. S. Eliot’s Little Gidding, in T. S. Eliot: The Complete Poems and Plays, 1909—1950: To Harcourt, Brace and World;

For the excerpts from John Betjeman’s poems House of Rest, and Christmas, from John Betjeman’s Collected Poems, To John Murray Publishing House;

For the excerpts from John Henry Newman, To Penguin Random House; To Longman Publishing;

For the poem, Adam’s Curse in The Collected Poems of W. B. Yeats, To MacMillan;

For The poem Revelation in The Poetry of Robert Frost : All Eleven of his Books—Complete, to Holt, Rinehart and Winston;

For the excerpt from Theodore Roethke’s The Waking, in Words for the Wind, to Indiana University Press.

For The Collar, and Love, by George Herbert, in The New Oxford Book of English Verse, ed. Helen Gardner, To Oxford University Press.

For The General Prologue to Geoffrey Chaucer’s The Canterbury Tales, I am grateful to W. W. Norton and Company, Inc., Copyright © 1993.

All Scriptural passages are taken from The NRSV, The New Revised Standard Version Bible, copyright ©1989, Division of Christian Education of the National Council of the Churches of Christ in the United States of America. I am grateful to them. I use NRSV as an abbreviation for this Bible.

All portions of the Book Of Common Prayer, are taken from Prayer Book and Hymnal : Containing The Book of Common Prayer and The Hymnal 1982, according to the use of The Episcopal Church. Church Publishing Incorporated, New York. Copyright © by the Church Pension Fund. All rights reserve. I am grateful to them, my church. I use BCP as an abbreviation for the Book of Common Prayer.

Part One

Matins

Revelation

We make ourselves a place apart

Behind light words that tease and flout,

But oh, the agitated heart

Till someone find us really out.

‘Tis pity if the case require

(Or so we say) that in the end

We speak the literal to inspire

The understanding of a friend.

But so with all, from babes that play

At hide-and-seek to God afar,

So all who hide too well away

Must speak and tell us where they are.

Robert Frost

I

I was 22 in early February, 1977 as I was making my way through the various hurdles set up by the Episcopal Diocese of Milwaukee for those in the process of becoming a priest, in accord with the Canons of the Episcopal Church. It was a Saturday and precisely 9:00 am as I entered the rather nondescript solid grey institutional Milwaukee hospital. My new Church mandated that any men (later women-the Milwaukee Diocese was one of the fiercest opponents of woman’s ordination to the priesthood and episcopate) seeking holy orders of transitional diaconate and priesthood meet the medical, emotional and intellectual requirements set, as well as find a sponsoring Parish Church and Diocese. Normally all these requirements would have to be met before applying and one hoped, being received by a certified Episcopal Seminary. Of the ten seminaries, my sponsoring Bishop, Charles T. Gaskell, had laid down the law of my attending Nashotah House and only Nashotah House. He had stated in his dark, dank Episcopal office in his rather strained reedy voice, Coleman, you have no background in the Church. All you know is the Salvation Army, and you’re not yet confirmed. Therefore Nashotah it will be. End of discussion. Where the Bishop lurked in the old offices on East Juneau Avenue, Milwaukee, always struck me as gloomy. So when I thought well of the bishop, from time to time, I referred to him as gloomy gus. On other occasions, when he caught me by surprise in the diocesan hallway or Cathedral of All Saints’, and called me Caldwell, I thought his get up, his costume looked like that of Dracula. (I imagined he spent the day hanging upside down in the closet with his wings over his eyes.) He normally wore a purple cassock with red piping, a purple cape or mozzetta, black dress shoes, and a purple skullcap or zucchetto. The Bishop and the Diocese were styled as Anglo-Catholic, that is, Episcopalians who expressed their identity in haberdashery and excessive ritual. Early on, I learned that priests and bishops dressed like mother and wanted to be called father. I generally found the sartorial expressions among the more extreme Anglo-Catholic clergy (who might wear lace up the wazoo—as certain of my more showy gay seminary friends would say) a little dandified, even precious. I had therefore begun referring to these extra bits as mozzarellas, and zucchinis while complimenting the wearers: as in My, I love your mozzarella, Archdeacon, or No one can wear a zucchini as you do your grace. Most Anglo-Catholic clergy, especially the thicky thick ones, would be quite taken with being complimented, and hardly offer a protest over nomenclature. Christopher Buckley has an anecdote about the down side of this describing the antics of George Brown, Prime Minister Harold Wilson’s Foreign Secretary in 1966. At a state dinner in Vienna, and in his cups, Brown turned to confront his table mate:

He had enjoyed his wine, and upon hearing the orchestra strike up a tune, turned to an exquisite creature in violet beside him and said, Madam, you look ravishing. May we dance? No, Mr. Brown, for three reasons. First, this is a state dinner, not a ball. Second, that is the Austrian state anthem, not a waltz. And third, I am the cardinal archbishop of Vienna.¹

Bishop Gaskell was a tall, dark and handsome man, who loved his job, and fully believed he and only he knew what the Lord wanted from him, which was an almost megalomaniac notion to build up the Episcopal Church in the Anglo-Catholic way, especially by shaping up young smart ass seminarian wannabees like me. And I was a special case for the Bishop.

I had grown up in an extreme holiness minded church, the Salvation Army, begun in 1865 by a raving loony Methodist minister in the East end of London, William Booth, who in the best pietistic fashion felt called by God to start yet one more church, to enable the salvation of all the terrible drunks, sinners, single women, women of the streets, chain smoking, drug addicted, slack, pan handling, low living, starving, sick, toothless, raving mad, broke, handicapped. So, he reckoned, he needed absolute order and authority-his!—and insisted on this by declaring his ministers officers, and lay folk soldiers, to make up a vast army. He commissioned them, along with providing each one a British Victorian military looking uniform—and even more—a British Victorian military band instrument. Soldiers and officers wore these uniforms with either a big shiny blue or red S—on their lapels. These weird costumes are still worn today and proudly! William Booth looks like long bearded Jehovah of old—as they would say—in photographs. And he forced everyone within hearing of a Salvationist corps—not church—to play or listen to loud dreadful martial sounding music, played or sung by folks who looked saved or spiritual by their constant smiling throughout the worship services. Salvation Army music and preaching provokes strong emotion among the folks drawn to this kind of worship. It is this strong emotional commitment to Jesus (mostly) which identifies the truly saved. And William Booth, at his wife Catherine’s order, nixed anything like the Sacraments as commanded by the Lord, (I’m thinking especially of the Dominical Sacraments of Baptism and Holy Communion) because Booth (or specifically his wife) knew better than the Lord how to get people saved. It was Catherine Booth’s decided view that one could never trust the sacraments to be salvific, because of how so many nominal Christians were openly hypocritical. How could one be saved by baptism and think oneself a Christian, and then turn around and drink, smoke, cuss, be a pub habitué, watch the cinema, divorce, dance, wear nylons and lipstick? These strictures would obviously rule out any Anglican clergy, as well as most popes and cardinals. So the heavy lifting of being Christian was tied entirely to one’s emotional decision(s) at the altar rail, following an altar call. (It was actually called the Holiness Table, or even Mercy Seat.) Altar calls occurred at Sunday morning and evening services, as well as Wednesday evening services. An officer advanced in rank after the first few years of being a Lieutenant and then Captain, by three factors: 1) how well one could kiss his or her commanding officer’s usually ample derriere; 2) how many statistical times one had saved anyone; and 3) how much money one could raise. These last two numbers were registered with some solemnity every week. The first was a little more beyond an officer’s ability to classify (even as holy as he or she could be) by data, statistics, graphs, or pie charts. One could perhaps see that without the sacraments of Baptism and Communion, a Salvationist’s total security of being saved and in the hands of Jesus, was in accord with one’s feelings of being saved. And as most human beings might know if they are even vaguely emotionally aware, feelings are fleeting, and not difficult to evoke. (The Nazis did this, e.g., with the instrumental martial playing of the "Horst Wessel Lied. And the Volk loved this, for a while at least.) So having the same folks Sunday by Sunday respond to an emotionally powerful and manipulative Corps Officer’s anguished pleadings to come to Jesus and get your warm fuzzy positive feelings back, assisted by the singing to band music of say Almost Persuaded, or Throw out the life line, or Rescue the Perishing, or Just as I am", would produce a win/win all around.

Of course, with this being my background—and frankly—a slightly omniscient sense he worked to project—Bishop Gaskell saw me as his special spiritual mission in 1977.

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Christopher Buckley, But Enough About You,

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II

So there I was at this decidedly institutional looking Hospital having moved some distance towards becoming a priest in the Diocese of Milwaukee. I was to spend the next eight hours with an entire team of medical, psychological, and psychiatric specialists to determine if I could be judged within a range of normality in human physical and emotional health so as not to be unleashed on unsuspecting congregations in order to play out what might otherwise be the rather unsavory agendas of a great number of religious leaders in America.

I met first with a nurse and then medical doctor to undergo a physical. I endured a number of needles and being prodded from these nurse ratchet types. Then as I could still walk, I met with a psychiatrist who sat very close to me and asked lots of questions very similar to the ones Will Stockdale had to endure in the film version of No Time For Sergeants. I remember this doctor smelling of a malodorous cologne, and shuffling into the room in some dishevelment while dragging one foot behind the other—his hair pomaded because he was a doctor after all. Yes, I loved my mother and father, yes they had lots of faults, and yes I differentiated from their need to shelter my siblings and me from the wickedness of the world, and would I say more about that.

Yes, as a matter of fact I would. I grew up in a very close knit family, all centered on the Salvation Army. Both my parents had grown up under very difficult circumstances in utter poverty. My dad had been farmed out along with his slightly older brother to their mother’s aunt and uncle when he was two months old. He and his brother were the second and third children of four, all boys, and all having been born to a high strung loud teenage mother, and an abusive alcoholic father. His parents had divorced very early in their marriage, and so Dale and Jack went to live with Uncle Gilbert and Aunt Rill in Hay Creek (pronounced crick) Michigan. Uncle Gilbert George McKee was born in the late 1890s, and had been gassed in the war to end all wars. (My brother Bill and I discovered his uniform, boots, helmet, bayonet and gas mask, and found these useful in our war games.) Coming back from the war (not quite right as Aunt Rill said) he married Orillia Davila Cook and settled down to try and pull themselves out of desperate poverty. They did not succeed. Uncle Gilbert tried his hand at owning a country general store in northern Ohio, failed and ended up owning a farm just outside of Hillsdale, Michigan. He was a bitter old man when I got to know him in the 1950s, an attitude changed only for the worse following a stroke in the early ‘60s. He resembled Walter Brennan, whom we all watched on television, in the Real McCoys, except that he was taller and slurred all his words. Once when I yelled at him what baseball team the Tigers were playing on television, this in 1962, and a matter of deep concern to me, he looked at me and hollered Mithhianplith. What? I said. Now with more volume-not helping the pronunciation, Mithhianplith. What? Jeeth, the fucking Thwinth. I corrected him with, Uncle Gilbert, they’re called the Minnesota Twins, not of course winning any points with my stupid response. It interested me how clear his swearing was. And we hardly ever heard any cussing at Aunt Rill’s and Uncle Gilbert’s house, because of the prudish ways of my mother. He died in 1965.

Aunt Rill, born in 1900, her age so easy to remember, was the most loving kind even saintly Christian woman anyone could have as a grandmother. She worked hard on the farm with her husband, and took on another job as a janitor at Hillsdale College. She did this primarily to have the money needed to provide Christmas and Birthday gifts for my siblings and me. Aunt Rill was short and slight, and a fantastic cook. To this day I remember the joy my family felt when we arrived at Aunt Rill’s house for Thanksgiving or Christmas. She loved us to death and showed it in the amazing turkey, mashed potatoes, yams, green beans, cranberry sauce, gravy, rolls, and two or three homemade pies, usually cherry, apple and mincemeat on display. She was true to her name. She loved us, and always hugged, kissed, touched, and smoothed my notorious cowlick with Aunt Rill special spit. My hair received a lot in those days. We attended a Wesleyan church with Aunt Rill and Uncle Gilbert, which could be enjoyable for its novelty. My entire family, including my three siblings, all enjoyed singing, and we belted out I’ll Fly Away, Leaning on the Everlasting Arms, Blessed Assurance, It is Well with my Soul, Is your Name Written there?, For I know Whom I have Believed, among many others. Aunt Rill always gave my siblings and me a taste of what the love of Jesus was incarnate.

When my family visited the Hillsdale farm, everything was delightful. We explored acres and acres of countryside, romped in the hay lofts, stayed for hours in the barn, and, at least my brother and I, played Cowboys and Indians. (I don’t know why the Indians were led by Geronimo and Cochise, except for television movies.)

So my dad grew up with his Mama Rill and Uncle Gilbert. He was born in 1931, in Hillsdale. He had an unfortunate sense of coarse humor about women, which might include Joanne Castle as she played Wabash Cannonball in her honky-tonk style on the Lawrence Welk Show, or Dolly Parton on The Porter Wagner show.) His name was Dale Duane Coleman, the kind of backwoods, rural, moonshine drinking, snake handling dumb farm boy name usually associated with a hick who reports during testimony time at Sunday night church having had several encounters of being probed for hours in every orifice by a Goober looking alien twice dumber than Floyd the Barber on Andy Griffith Show—leading the minister of music to change the next hymn to He Touched Me. (This is the name my parents proudly blessed me with, adding Junior to it.) He was handsome-as my brother Bill is now—a jack of all trades, who could tear apart and put back together a Ford engine. He was a short order cook, his specialties usually involving venison or spam. Education was not a strong suit for my dad; he had little aptitude for it, and wasn’t generally encouraged by his growing up with Aunt Rill and Uncle Gilbert, who had finished their own schooling with the 6th grade. He and my Uncle Jack were very close, both natural salesmen, athletes, and singers. They played ball together in High School, Uncle Jack a singles hitter while my dad hit for power. In High School and afterwards, they sang in a men’s Gospel quartet, with two Wesleyan Methodist ministers and twins, Vernon and Verdon Dunkle out of Spring Arbor, Michigan. Some of my earliest memories were of hearing their singing as recorded on old 78 records, my dad the high tenor and Uncle Jack the bass. The quartet had a fine clear sound, and all had perfect pitch. The Dunkle—Coleman Quartet became well—known singing at church services, revivals, and live on the radio. I listened to On the Jericho Road, He’ll Understand and Say Well Done, and This World is Not My Home.

My dad had kept old posters announcing their concerts. What one noticed about my dad was the enjoyment he took in singing, and his handsome features, including Jerry Lee Lewis wavy hair. His was a fine physique, which he kept in shape through a discipline of lifting weights. He also had the Dale Carnegie confidence in himself, which enabled him to be a natural salesman. I was not like my dad.

My mother was seven years older than dad, and a city slicker. She was the youngest of three, born in Detroit to William Henry Roberts from Cornwall, England, and Lillian Sampson, a member of the Lumbee Tribe which had a very colorful past from Robeson County, North Carolina, many living in and around Pembroke. No one has yet discovered their origins with five or so competing notions of whence they came. A favorite myth was they were aboriginals who intermarried with the Lost Colony of Roanoke, and therefore Croatans. This was my mother’s working theory—and my mother was never very keen on history. The Lumbees were loyal to the United States during the time of the Trail of Tears or better the Trail of Tears and Death in 1830–8. This was the infamous forced march of the Five Indian Nations living in the Southeastern States of the US, the Cherokee, Chickasaw, Muskogee, Choctaw, Creek, to which was added the Seminole, for good measure. Congress passed in 1830 the Indian Relocation Act under the aggressive prodding of President Andrew Jackson. Approximately 45,000 Native Americans were marched at gunpoint away from the houses and lands they had successfully farmed in rich soil for many generations because of the greed of immigrant whites desiring their very productive land. The President was one himself who engaged in land speculation and bought a great many acres and farms. Meanwhile the Indian peoples were placed in crowded internment camps, to await their removal to lands west of the Mississippi, in the Oklahoma territory. Men, women and children succumbed to disease and freezing temperatures, unprepared for the harsh conditions to which they were subjected. Nearly a third of the people died during this relocation.

The Lumbees were allowed to stay because of their sworn loyalty to the United States and moved to less productive land in the areas around the Lumberton River. Their reward was to be hated by all other Native tribes, to be castigated as mulattos or half-breeds throughout the 19th century, as well as to be enslaved to assist the Confederate cause during the War of Northern Aggression (as they said in North Carolina). In the twentieth century, everyone held them in contempt, as their lot could be compared to the Untouchables in India. Many fought in WWII, and received North Carolina’s gratitude by finally being officially named a State tribe in the 1950s. In 1958, a famous event occurred when the KKK Grand dragon James W. Catfish Cole decided to call a Rally near Hayes Pond on farmland he rented for the purpose, to end the mongrelization of the races which he on this occasion associated with the Lumbee. On January 13, three crosses were burned in Robeson County, one in front of a Lumbee woman’s house in St. Paul’s, because she was dating a white man, another on the property of a Lumbee family in Maxton, and a third near a bar which was a favorite of the Lumbee men. Cole called the rally for January 18th. About a hundred or so Klansmen showed and shouted their approval of ridding the county of kinky haired mongrels, who were destroying the purity of the white race. They were then startled to find a large number of Lumbees surrounding them, many WWII vets who were known as fierce fighters, and not easily intimidated. When the light bulbs above Cole were shot out, five hundred or so Lumbees charged them from all sides and the Klansmen fled in terror, Cole leading them into the woods. The Lumbees had been well organized by Charlie Warriax and Simon Oxendine, both Lumbee veterans of the War. The incident became a popular Life magazine article with pictures of Warriax and Oxendine depicted with the KKK banner they had recovered draped around them.²

My mother hardly knew her own mother who died in a Diphtheria epidemic in 1927, my mother barely two and a half years old. She was deeply affected by the love she received and expressed for her mother’s family, favorites being her Uncle Claude and Aunt Mary Sampson. We traveled a number of times when I was young to visit our relatives on a large tobacco farm. (The irony of this was my mother’s deep antipathy towards cigarette smoking, believing it to be sinful.) Uncle Claude was an upstanding, dignified gentleman and widely known as a fine family man. He exemplified the devout Christian faith a great many Lumbees shared. Around Pembroke, there were two large Denominations, the strict Baptists, and the Holiness Methodists. Uncle Claude and his large family were Methodists. I remember when I was eight or nine, the solemnity of attending church with my relatives, and the seriousness with which the service was conducted. Men and boys sat on one side, women and girls on the other. The Hymns were lined out in an almost sacred harp way of singing. To this day the Lumbees-now one of the largest Indian tribes in the United States of nearly 55,000—are known for their devout Christian way of life and hardworking culture. A couple of my cousins graduated from college, and one spent most of his life with the FBI. I remember the day in 1962 when mother sat us all down for the grim news that Uncle Claude’s and Aunt Mary’s oldest son, Linwood, had died tragically in his teen years, by sledding in a snow storm down a hill which ended in a highway. Someone missed spotting the car coming around a bend. Years later my Sampson relatives journeyed to Flint, Michigan for my dad’s funeral, and to Madison, Wisconsin for my ordination to the Episcopal Church’s priesthood.

My parents frequently recited a story about me when I was around two years old. My breathing became much labored, and after ten days of finding it hard to swallow, I had lost significant weight. Mother told me she had come to think I might die. I was taken to a doctor, who immediately sent me to the hospital for the removal of my tonsils and adenoids. The surgery was successful, and I became healthy again almost overnight. I’m glad my parents were not Christian Scientists.

My earliest memories are of chasing a chicken on Uncle Claude’s farm, and smelling the wonderful aroma of tobacco leaves drying in the barn. Uncle Claude’s was a spacious, enjoyable, loving place, and gives me a glimpse of what is meant in our Lord’s teaching about Heaven. Food was always plentiful and delicious, and on Sunday afternoons, relatives would come from miles to partake in Sunday dinner. Chickens were caught, killed with a sure blow of an axe, plucked and Southern fried. There would be gallons of ice tea, potatoes and corn on the cob. These events would bring all sorts of relatives for the social gabbing and enjoyment of being together, including WWII vets like Uncle Joe Lowry. He was a jovial, shoeless, tobacco chewing, loud, storytelling, overall wearing fun guy to be around. He and several others enjoyed joshing mother because of her being a church lady type, who never got humor of any kind, but expressed a constant nervous ha. If there were harmless hecks, or darns, gee’s said, she would have an immediate loud intake of breath. For a good old Anglo—Saxon Teutonic four letter word, like shit, she would commence lecturing the violator of her rigid rules. For myself I am feeling more and more On Golden Pond with Henry Fonda confronting his young charge Billy, who’s letting a string of bullshits fly.

Norman Thayer: You like that word don’t cha? Bullshit.

Billy: Yeah, Norman.

Norman: It’s a good word.

There was never a good party or fun time that my mother couldn’t kill. She did not believe we were placed on this earth to have fun. As I got older I got a little wiser about her. After her mother died, she was cared for by her older sister, Lillian, five years her senior, and her brother, William, spitting image of her father, and placed almost exactly halfway between the two of the girls in age. Also, her half-sister Muriel (pronounced mur-il), would help on occasion. Mother’s daddy (as she referred to him) had been a Victorian Cornishman, born in 1874 not far from Bodmin, in a hamlet called Withiel (not Lostwithiel). He was worshipped by my mother, who saw him as a very loving, moral, intelligent, deeply devout Methodist parent. He had been brought up a miner with his brothers, and family pig. Cornishmen are by and large short, as William Henry Roberts was, no taller than 5’1. He had a quick clipped way of speaking, and could quote vast passages from the King James Bible, Shakespeare, Tennyson, Kipling, and the 1662 Book of Common Prayer’s Psalms; all of them. Growing up without a mother, affected mother deeply, particularly in not showing love very physically. Hers were hurried pecks on the cheek, and a quick formal embrace. Second, she showed her love by worrying. How are you doing? with heavy anxious emphasis, or too careful checking on some ailment, or opposing some choice my older sister Dawn or I would make in a knee jerk reaction, was how she showed her care. And she tended to smother us with her anxious presence. She had learned this of course growing up, with never remembering her mother, and never enjoying life or an intimate relationship with someone her age. From the time she was a teenager in the mid-1930s, she was her father’s caretaker and companion. Even with Frank Sinatra bobby soxer music, she was a daddy’s girl. Pictures of her from her early twenties reveal a happy young woman, with lovely black hair, and a prepossessing look. She was engaged three times, but only got married at 28 when her father’s health was failing. She was affected by the dreadful circumstances of the Great Depression, which left her emotionally and spiritually exhausted. Luckily, however it was during those times that she finally found a mother figure—the Salvation Army. She lived and died with The Army. Once she began attending at the behest of her brother, who had discovered the church in Detroit from listening to the Salvationists’ band music at an open air service, she heard the sirens’ call. In fact, during the early 1930s, my mother, her two siblings and their father all became Salvationists. They listened to lengthy sermons by officers with hardly any education beyond high school, impressing upon hearers to get saved, get saved, get saved. All officers, men and women (again Catherine Booth’s influence), went for two years to one of the Salvation Army’s Training Colleges. In the Midwest, this was located in Chicago. Officers were prepared for an active ministry on the streets, or in bars, or in some of the most depressing squalid, filthy living spaces anyone could imagine. They then repaired to the Salvation Army Hall or a Corps building, for encouragement, witnessing to what they had seen and accomplished at the grace of Jesus, singing rousing songs (not hymns), and praying with one another. At Christmas time, they rang bells for donations collected in kettles, distributed food and gifts to those in need, and (outside of Prohibition) year round went to the very devil’s dens which served demon rum, generally in working class or poor neighborhoods of large cities, and collected money from selling the War Cry to mostly men, but occasionally women, who smoked and drank and caroused, looking for some way to make it through the night. There they confronted evils that put human beings beyond any recognizable hope of a productive life, many who had experienced lives of addictions, suffering, tragedy, loss of families, divorces, deaths, poverty, traumas, physical and emotional abuses, neglect, and conscious that the good" people of society, the do-gooders, the religious folk, lower middle and middle and upper middle class members, despised these losers, if they ever saw them or heard of them especially in the crime sections of newspapers. This was my mother’s life after she was commissioned (or ordained) an officer in 1948. She and her family members, firmly and without any doubt, believed with firm conviction, what Jesus had said in St. Matthew’s Gospel, chapter 25:31–40: As you did it unto the least of these, you did it unto me.

When the Son of Man comes in his glory, and all the

Angels with him, then he will sit on the throne of his

glory. All the Nations will be gathered before him, and

he will separate people one from another as a shepherd

separates the sheep from the goats, and he will put the

sheep at his right hand and the goats at his left. Then the

king will say to those at his right hand, ‘Come you that

are blessed by my Father, inherit the kingdom prepared

for you from the foundation of the world; for I was

hungry and you gave me food, I was thirsty and you gave

me something to drink, I was a stranger and you

welcomed me, I was naked and you gave me clothing, I

was sick and you took care of me, I was in prison and

you visited me.’ Then the righteous will answer

him, ‘Lord, when was it that we saw you hungry and

gave you food, or thirsty and gave you something to

drink? And when was it that we saw you a stranger and

welcomed you, or naked and gave you clothing? And

when was it that we saw you sick or in prison and visited

you?’And the king will answer them, ‘Truly (Amen—

introduces a solemn pronouncement by our Lord)

I tell you just as you did it to one of the least of these

who are members of my family, you did it to me.’³

Since the Salvation Army eschewed the Sacraments of Baptism and Holy Communion arbitrarily in the 1880s, the sacraments commanded by