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    Emotional Abuse Caused by a Narcissist: How to Identify Signs of Narcissistic Abuse in Romantic Relationships and Breaking Free
    Emotional Abuse Caused by a Narcissist: How to Identify Signs of Narcissistic Abuse in Romantic Relationships and Breaking Free
    Emotional Abuse Caused by a Narcissist: How to Identify Signs of Narcissistic Abuse in Romantic Relationships and Breaking Free
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    Emotional Abuse Caused by a Narcissist: How to Identify Signs of Narcissistic Abuse in Romantic Relationships and Breaking Free

    By Sibahle Zulu

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    Have you ever had that unshakable weird feeling about a person you are dating during the early days of the relationship but you can't really articulate what it is? Keep reading because you might just find the answer…

    This book will save you even weeks of heartache because you will learn the signs that indicate that you might be in an emotionally abusive relationship. Many times we tend to ignore the red flags that wave right in front of our faces because we like giving people the benefit of the doubt to our own detriment. Emotional abusers are very cunning, they present themselves differently to the communities than the monsters they are at home, which is why it's very difficult to tackle because unlike physical abuse, there's no evidence as such to produce as proof that you are being abused.

    The truth though is, the true character traits of a person always show up, whether in uttered words or in deed, no matter how hard they try to hide it. It's just for you to be able to spot those traits and not ignoring them that will save your life.

    What you'll learn in this book:
    Identifying signs of narcissistic abuse from the early stage of the relationship
    The reasons why the narcissists are attracted to you
    What to do to save yourself from the heartache going forward

    African women more especially should read this book because with them, this abuse is mostly hidden under the 'African culture and traditions', where women must 'submit' themselves, their opinions, concerns or feelings don't matter. The so called culture favours men which perpetuates patriarchy.

    This book is a definite must have if you want to break free from wrong programming that made you accept emotional abuse as a norm!

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherSibahle Zulu
    Release dateFeb 25, 2020
    ISBN9781393328636
    Emotional Abuse Caused by a Narcissist: How to Identify Signs of Narcissistic Abuse in Romantic Relationships and Breaking Free

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      Emotional Abuse Caused by a Narcissist - Sibahle Zulu

      Introduction

      Being involved with an emotional abuser is a nightmare you don’t want to be in but unfortunately more prone to be exposed to since it is normalized by the society. Chances are you have experienced it once upon a time in your lifetime or are currently in the situation but you can’t put a finger to what is it exactly that you are going through, you just know that something is not feeling right.

      We have subconsciously normalised emotional abuse, thanks to the programing through our upbringing. We inherit these behaviours from our families and society at large. Emotional abuse is very difficult to tackle because unlike physical abuse for instance, you cannot produce evidence as such that you are experiencing it, and that is exactly what abusers capitalize on. You might find that you are married to your husband/wife who’s respected in the community because of the position they hold in work space, the way they conduct themselves and even so helpful to the community. Everyone looks up to this person but you find that they are the total opposite when they are at home. You never see those values like respect displayed at home but then they excel when it comes to co-workers or everyone else (except you).

      You find that you don’t have a voice, your opinions are always dismissed, you are not valued, there’s actually nothing that you do right. When you try to tell the next person about this, they also dismiss you, you look like you are making things up. Sometimes even your own family and friends dismiss you, defend the abuser which adds salt to the open wound because these people should be having your back since they are supposed to know you deeply. I mean, why would you lie about such things, to what gain? What it is that you are experiencing here could be narcissistic abuse or dealing with a person with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). Narcissistic abuse comes in different forms including, financial, physical and emotional abuse and it is possible to experience all at once.

      What is Narcissistic Personality Disorder?

      The term narcissism originated from the Greek Mythology where a handsome young hunter, Narcissus, fell in love with his own reflection in a pool of water and, unable to remove himself away from this mesmerising visage, he stayed there gazing at himself until he died. Upon which a flower grew beside him called Narcissus, more commonly known as Daffodil or Jonquil.

      The Diagnostic & Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fifth Edition (DSM-5), published by American Psychiatric Association, classifies NPD as one of the Cluster B Mental Disorders, which is determined by the presence of 9 personality traits, however, only 5 of them need to be present to diagnose NPD. Here are the DSM-5 Traits for NPD:

      Has a grandiose sense of self-importance (they exaggerate everything about themselves)

      Is occupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love.

      Believes that he or she is special and unique and can only be understood by or should associate with other special or high status people (or institutions)

      Requires excessive admiration.

      Has a sense of entitlement.

      Is interpersonally exploitative.

      Lacks empathy: is unwilling to recognise or identify with the feelings and needs of others.

      Is often envious of others or believes that others are envious of him or her.

      Shows arrogant, haughty behaviours or attitudes.

      Types of narcissists

      There are different types of narcissists. Taken from the book The Top 50 Red Flags of Romantic Predators: How to Avoid the Narcissist’s Trap, Maria McMahon, who’s a narcissistic abuse recovery expert, states that these are the three most common;

      Overt narcissist. These people are:

      Big headed, vain, loud, boastful

      Consider themselves brilliant, powerful and gorgeous

      Rude to anyone they perceive as beneath them

      No respect for boundaries, rules, authority, or people

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