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    Welcome to the Friendzone!
    Welcome to the Friendzone!
    Welcome to the Friendzone!
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    Welcome to the Friendzone!

    By Tosin Ojumu

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    A short ebook from my relationship series and blog: "Finding Mr Huggie-Wuggie" that is all about building an outstanding foundation for an outstanding Christian marriage. This ebook contains 7 articles:

    The Interaction Between Personality and Character
    "...Character is made up of things like: someone's commitment to honesty, to telling the truth, to integrity, to treating other people with courtesy and dignity. Character also includes things like determination to persevere through hard times, to keep doing what is right, even if this seems impossible. Perhaps someone's character can be defined then by their determination to do what is right because it is right and how determined they are to align their lives and their chosen path with what is right..."

    Welcome to the Friendzone!
    "...The friendzone is when you know someone who could feasibly be a romantic partner, but for whatever reason, one of you says "Let's just be friends!" Apparently, putting someone in the friendzone is universally disliked, however, I gotta say, I LOVE the friendzone! I like putting my friends in the friendzone and I like being put in the friendzone myself, as long as everyone is being sincere..."

    Married to Myself?!
    "...This is hopefully quite a humorous post inspired by a recent article I did not actually fully read, eventually! The basic premise of the article from the headline and excerpt was that a certain woman grew fed up of remaining unmarried, and in despair at the lack of available partners, she decided to simply go ahead and get married...to herself. I totally fell apart laughing, but there was a touch of poignancy in the article in that apparently she now felt that her existence had been validated..."

    Marriage Is Not an "Eat as Much as You Like" Buffet!
    "...A big lie:
    A big lie that society spins for us is that relationships are a place where you can get your needs met, that you can take as much as you like or as much as you need.

    The Christian version of the lie:
    The Christian version of the lie is very similar to the regular version of the lie. The only difference in the Christian version is that we expect to get married first, and then to proceed as above!..."

    Further Prayers for My Marriage
    "...Someone who invests himself into excellence, always eager to learn new things, but still does not live to work; someone who would spontaneously make time for his clingy wife right in the midst of his daily schedule - coffee shop dates, extended lunches - ideally, someone who is self-employed, like I am, so that our working and our living together would be tightly intricated, where we are constantly in one another's "hair"..."

    Talking about Pornography and Sexual Fantasies
    "...I am going to hijack my own post for the sake of asking this question, which I must admit that I have considered often whenever pornography has been discussed. Simply this: Does every man struggle with this thing - or the overwhelming majority of men? Even my holiest, purest, most prayerful brothers, full of fire and spiritual vigour - do they struggle with pornography as well? Does this then mean that any potential husband of mine will also be struggling with this, no matter how holy he is and aspires to be?..."

    Sexual Purity: Further Thoughts
    "...This is not by any means the first time that this has occurred to me. Actually, countless times I have made up my mind: "Lord I have to live in purity for You!" And I have also spent countless hours trying to think of a successful strategy for pursuing mental purity. Please believe me that I am not exaggerating in this. Over the course of more than a decade I have prayed endlessly. I have fasted many times. I have spoken out the Bible endlessly..."

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherTosin Ojumu
    Release dateJul 5, 2019
    ISBN9780463587584
    Welcome to the Friendzone!
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    Tosin Ojumu

    Hello, my name is Tosin and for many years I have sat down and thought through questions about how to have an outstandingly successful marriage, and what I need to do before I get married to best ensure that successful marriage. Over the next few weeks and months I aim to publish a new ebook everyday from my blog and relationship series "Finding Mr Huggie-Wuggie." Visit my blog address listed here to see the full list of ebooks as well as video excerpts for each ebook :)

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      Welcome to the Friendzone! - Tosin Ojumu

      Welcome to the Friendzone!

      Copyright 2019 by Tosin Ojumu

      Published at Smashwords.com

      Thank you for downloading this ebook. This book remains the copyrighted property of the author, and may not be redistributed to others for commercial or non-commercial purposes. If you enjoyed this book, please encourage your friends to download their own copy from their favorite authorized retailer. Thank you for your support.

      Table of Contents

      The Interaction Between Personality and Character

      Welcome to the Friendzone!

      Married to Myself?!

      Marriage Is Not an Eat as Much as You Like Buffet!

      Further Prayers for My Marriage

      Talking about Pornography and Sexual Fantasies

      Sexual Purity: Further Thoughts

      Cover image by young ho seo from Pixabay

      The ebook summary is available on my website at https://huggie-wuggie.com/excerpts/ebook-summary-welcome-to-the-friendzone/

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      The Interaction Between Personality and Character

      This ebook was previously posted on my blog "Finding Mr Huggie-Wuggie" on 23 October 2014.

      To see this ebook in other formats please check out my website at: https://huggie-wuggie.com/excerpts/the-interaction-between-personality-and-character/

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      It recently occurred to me that it would be quite helpful to write a post on the difference between personality and character and how they interact for this main reason:

      In my relationship writings I am always saying that it takes 2 years to get to know someone. Yet I realised that there are some aspects of someone's nature which can become apparent very quickly. Personality is one of these aspects. And then it is very possible to fall for someone's personality very quickly.

      There are a few different aspects to someone's make-up, that is, what goes into making someone.

      Some of these include:

      Personality

      Character

      Skills

      Work Ethic

      Psychologists might disagree, however I would say that none of these listed here are fixed, but they are all largely fluid. For instance someone might work hard to develop new skills, which will then round out their abilities.

      On my blog I talk a lot about character. So here then is the difference between personality and character, and here is why it is important.

      Character is made up of things like: someone's commitment to honesty, to telling the truth, to integrity, to treating other people with courtesy and dignity. Character also includes things like determination to persevere through hard times, to keep doing what is right, even if this seems impossible. Perhaps someone's character can be defined then by their determination to do what is right because it is right and how determined they are to align their lives and their chosen path with what is right.

      Personality however is made up of things like: how someone dresses, how they wear their hair, whether or not they can be considered cool, the type of music that they listen to; their sense of humour.

      In general, I find that someone's personality does not necessarily give the slightest indication to their character, except if their outward appearance indicates that they do not make any effort. So someone might dress beautifully, they might wear their hair flamboyantly, be easily the coolest person around, dazzle everyone with their brilliant sense of humour - and yet still have truly beautiful character. They might go out of their way to help other people, they might strive to live their lives with truth and sincerity at all times, they might even write Bible blogs chronicling their struggles to pursue holiness and righteousness, for instance!

      Sometimes hanging around Christian circles, there can be this mistaken belief that if someone is beautiful on the outside, then that automatically means that they must have poor character especially If They Wear Make-Up! Conversely I have also met many Christians who are not particularly striking in terms of personality or appearance on the outside and equally uncompelling in terms of inner character.

      And yet obviously the point of this post is to talk about those situations when people do appear falsely attractive because of their personality. Because personality is something that is seen on the outside, it can be very

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