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    The Free Self-Help Handbook
    The Free Self-Help Handbook
    The Free Self-Help Handbook
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    The Free Self-Help Handbook

    By David Ferrers

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    The author is one of the world's most experienced life and performance coaches. He has helped thousands of people to transform their careers and their personal lives by showing them how to use powerful NLP tecnhiques that enable them to bring about dramatic changes in their thinking and behaviour. At the end of the day the real joy of life is in the way that we feel about ourselves and what we are doing. The author is a master at transforming your feelings. He has written four importnat books on personal transformation. Now you can obtain The Free Self-Help Handbook without spending a cent and start yourself along the road to a new, more confident and more fulfilling life.

    David Ferrers has worked as an independent coach for managers in many of the world's top companies like: Dell, Axa, Prudential, Xerox, P&O, Yves St.Laurent, Bosch, Relx, Elsevier, Portal Financial, Knauf, ANZ Bank, Primati, Land Securities, GMAC, Johnson & Johnson, Total Jobs Group, HP and ABB plus Government Departments.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherDavid Ferrers
    Release dateMar 1, 2019
    ISBN9780463883570
    The Free Self-Help Handbook
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    David Ferrers

    Hello, my name is David Ferrers. During the twenty five or more years that I have been a self-realisation coach (someone who assists people to become what they can become) I have helped thousands of people. They have come from many different walks of life. My task has been to enable them to discover their own sense of purpose and meaning so that they can release all the happiness, courage, confidence and power that has lain dormant within their beings. Now it’s your turn to unlock your potential for enjoying your life to the full.The purpose of my writing is simple. It is to enable you to feel happy, liberated, courageous, confident and powerful, AND to feel good about yourself whilst you grow into the person you always wanted to be. The secret to making any transformation is to discover your personal answers to some basic questions. The issue for most people is that they don’t know what questions to ask. I didn’t either when I started on my personal quest for my unique way to express who I am. The questions have emerged over many years as I have worked with clients to help them discover the powers that have lain dormant within them throughout their lives.There is a better way to look for the answers. When you discover those answers they act like a transformer; it’s as if someone has just switched on the lights in the darkened room of your mind; your whole being is suddenly flooded with confidence, power, courage and happiness. Once you breech the dam that is holding you back all these good feelings just burst out from within you.Can you imagine how good your life will be when you overcome your fears with courage, when you face intimidating people and situations with confidence, when you find within yourself the power to overcome any challenge, when you feel liberated, when you pass your days in a haze of happiness?You were born to be happy, courageous, confident and powerful - so, what happened? Did you somehow manage to lose these important feelings somewhere along the road of life? No, it’s not your fault. The feelings got submerged beneath a welter of instructions given to you during the early years of your life by people upon whom you depended and whom you trusted - your parents and teachers. They did not mean you any harm; they were doing what they thought was best for you. The way to understand what happened is like this: you are by nature curious, you like to explore, but when you explored as a small child you were often told, “don’t do that,” or simply “no!” You got the idea that certain actions were wrong and punishable. So you stopped exploring - you became risk averse and weary of authority figures.Your nervousness was made worse by the education system. You are a child of the Post Industrial Period who was brought up using Industrial Period training. What happened was that during the century starting in about 1760 man invented machines which revolutionised our way of life. Millions of people left the land and went to work in factories. This created a massive demand for training people in new skills and disciplines. Schools were set up to teach mathematics, engineering and sciences. At the same time people had to be disciplined to turn up for work on time and to work the rigid hours demanded by shift patterns. The abilities to pass exams and behave in disciplined ways became the Gods of society. The beliefs became established that people should be trained to be a certain way and that being that way was “good”. You are a victim of the beliefs that were grooved into you by “the system”, your parents and your schools. They taught you to be the way you are now.The problem is that the training that “the system” instilled in you is rigid. It is a one-size-fits-all straight jacket. It made you think that you should be a conformist, that you should think and behave in the ways that “the system” demands of you. It has not allowed you to develop as the unique, creative individual that you are. When you’ve been disciplined in the ways of “the system” it is common to feel constrained, unable to find a way to express yourself. You are doing your best to comply with a system and to live your life in a way that does not feel right for you. It’s just not natural for you. You are not alone, just about everyone on the planet has been indoctrinated in this rigid way and now finds that the workplace which reinforces the rigid disciplines of “the system” makes them feel constricted.So the question then is: “how do I release myself from the chains of other people’s idea of how I should be and become the happy, confident, independent and powerful person that I would love to be?”The answers this and many more of your questions are in my books.Why writing because I spent too much of my own life trying to please other people, worrying about what other people might think. This is a ridiculous thing to have done. Why be concerned about what other people think or by the threat of consequences that might happen? They probably won’t happen. Why not simply be concerned about how to enjoy the experience of life. That way you may occasionally influence what other people think, but you don’t need to worry. The key to happiness is simply to be your self, not to try to be someone that you’re not, not to be concerned about what other people might think - to simply groove along doing your own thing. It took me a long time to discover this and I was in a lot of pain for much of the time that I was trying to be someone that I am not. Eventually I learned how to break free and express myself.***What Clients Say About David“David is a most astute and exceptionally motivating coach with great personal and professional integrity. For somebody with such depth of experience, he is remarkable in his continuing quest for learning about leading a balanced life.” Lucian J. Hudson, Director of Communications, The Open University“Having David as a coach has made a significant impact to my personal and professional development. His thoughtful, sincere and inspiring attitude enabled me to change the way I think.”Jane Sutton, Associate Director Strategy and Development, RBI“I've worked with David in the context of his NLP coaching and training and I am deeply impressed with the level of humility combined with deep competence that he brings to his work.”Gene Early, PhD, Early Leadership Solutions“I was coached by David during a time that I was managing a very challenging project. David's approach and help made a big difference.”Matt Bye, CTO, eporta“David's coaching was a life changing experience which produced profound effects in both my work and personal life. David understands people very well, particularly the workings of the human mind, and is able to explain your emotions and help you control them whilst giving you the confidence and direction to achieve your goals.”Bob Stark, Commercial Director, Portafina“I've attended a few courses on developing 'soft skills' and, to be honest, I've gotten very little value from them. That was certainly not the case when working with David! My view on things and myself has been completely transformed. I am grateful for his insight and help.”Chad Macey, Principal Architect, RBI“As a coach, David has the life experience, knowledge, empathy and understanding to listen, guide and mentor. You have the answers inside yourself. David will help you to find them.”Andy Pandini, Actor“David is a fantastic coach. If you want someone to make you and your managers think, to really make a difference, look no further.”Oliver Burns, Group Product and Traffic Director, Totaljobs Group“David’s coaching has fundamentally changed the way I think, and therefor act. I appreciate David’s sincere and open style. Although I’m an extremely private person, his relaxed self confidence put me at ease from the start. This was crucial – else I might not have benefitted from the coaching at all. He doesn’t let me get away with anything, yet he’s always positive and supportive which sets a great example for a young professional. Recently I attended one of his day-long workshops and I learned techniques which I could implement the very next day to stunning effect. From little tricks like breaking state to big things like setting well-formed outcomes, his coaching has really taken me from competent professional to confident executive.Tom Van Aardt, Head of Technology – Flightglobal“I have thoroughly appreciated David’s encouragement, thoughtfulness, generosity, wisdom, kindness and astuteness. David has helped me be clearer about my direction and grasp new opportunities. Working with him has left me feeling uplifted and re-energised. He has the ability to see things from a perspective that is thought provoking and refreshing. Thank you David!”Gale Vincent

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      The Free Self-Help Handbook - David Ferrers

      1 How This Book Will Help You

      If you are not as confident as you wish to be - if you are not as good a public speaker as you would like to be - if your career is not progressing as you would like - it is self-evident that you need to change. What you are thinking and doing at the moment is not achieving the results you want so you need to think and behave differently. Not just differently but in more effective ways.

      Over the course of the last seven years I have been on a journey to try to discover an effective way to communicate to more people the benefits of all I have learned over twenty five years of coaching others. My goal has always been to help my clients make changes to their thinking and behaviour that will enable them to enjoy more joyful and fulfilling lives.

      As part of my research I wrote seven books of varying length. Each book explains how to master some of the fundamentals of self-mastery which I believe to be the foundation of a joyful life.

      Recently I decided that it is asking too much of anyone who might want to create a joyful life that they have to read so many books. So I decided to edit three of the shorter books into one volume.

      The Free Self-Help Handbook contains those three books. They have each been thoroughly rewritten and edited with the benefit of the further learning that I have accumulated in the intervening years. During the course of this rewriting I have considerably amended, updated and, I hope, improved the narrative.

      The concept of The Free Self-Help Handbook is that it should act as free centre from which the reader can gain an understanding of all the skills and abilities needed to become the person they would really love to be.

      You may find that as you read the book there will be moments where you say to yourself: He already mentioned that earlier in the book. The repetition is for your benefit. I could easily have removed the repetition but I have allowed it to remain to highlight the importance of the subject and to reinforce what experience has shown to be necessary in order for you to reach your destination. Repetition will aid your understanding.

      Throughout The Free Self-Help Handbook you will find links to other books that have been written to help you on your journey to living a life in which you can express fully both who you are and what you are. It is one of my firm beliefs that self-expression holds the key to both our happiness and our prosperity.

      It is when you express who you really are that you feel whole; you feel that your life has a purpose and meaning and you walk around filled with enthusiasm - a big smile on your face.

      You want to be more than you are now. You want your life to be more fulfilling. First you have to know what you really want. This is much more challenging than we ever imagine. Yes, I also believe that you can make your life to be any way that you want it to be, but you have to know what you want it to be and that can be a moveable feast. One moment we want to be famous, the next we want to be wealthy, the next we want to live in a beach hut, and then we want to be in a box at Royal Ascot races.

      It is easy to have your life goals shifted hither and yon by the whims of the influences of the environment in which we currently find ourselves or by the stories we are reading or by the programmes we are watching on TV.

      I have found that the best place to start is by discovering your prime interests, what it is that you enjoy doing more than anything else? What does fulfilment look like to you?

      Is your motivation sufficiently strong to enable you to drive yourself to what you do want? Obviously you will have to change some of what you do now because it is not working as you would wish, but what should you change, and how should you change it?

      The guidance contained within The Free Self-Help Handbook will help you to greatly improve the quality of your life. You will discover that I have used many NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) techniques because I have discovered that they help many of my clients.

      I was brought up to believe that there is a right way to be in life. Both my family and my teachers enforced rules and standards on me from an early age. However, the experience of my life has been that many of these rules do not feel natural for me. Some rules make sense to me and I comply without difficulty or protest. Other rules seem nonsensical, they simply do not seem right for me. But the worst rule of all is the one that suggests that they know that there is a right way for me to be.

      I understand that I am a human being and therefore it is my role to be. However, this doesn’t tell me how or what I should be in order for my life to be meaningful, fulfilled and happy. Much of my life has been spent in the search for my natural niche in life - a way of living that feels comfortable to me - rather than a niche prescribed by others. I have spent my life in search of the niche in which I can achieve fulfilment, happiness and prosperity. In this book I will pass on to you what I have learned on my life journey. You can read about my actual journey in my memoire A Journey of Self-Discovery.

      My great good fortune has been that twenty five years ago I was inspired to become a performance coach. This career choice was initially driven by my desire to improve my own performance. However, I have greatly enjoyed working with over one thousand clients in both the corporate and private sectors. I became a coach so that I could work individually with each client on the issues that are of concern or importance to them. For me individual tailor made coaching is a better way of improving performance than training programmes that present ‘one-size-fits-all’ solutions to the challenges that life presents. When I run workshops or seminars they are always highly inter-active so that I can address each individual’s issues within the framework of the workshop.

      At this early stage I should clarify what I mean by improved performance. To me improved performance means that people are achieving what they believe will make one or more aspects of their life more rewarding for them and they are doing this in a way that feels natural to them. Individual goals vary from client to client. For one client improved performance may mean a promotion or a pay rise at work. For another it may be starting their own business. For yet another it may mean finding a partner with whom they can enjoy a loving relationship.

      What gives meaning, fulfilment and happiness to each of us is unique to each individual. Because of the buzz I get from helping others to find fulfilment I have immersed myself for over a quarter of a century in researching and practicing the optimum ways for people to prosper in their lives, careers, and relationships.

      When you work closely with people over extended periods of time you develop clear insights about what works and what does not work. My aim has always been to find ways of improving the lives of my clients in ways that work for them. My sole interest is, does this way of thinking and behaving enable this person to improve their experience of life? My way of coaching is a constant process of questioning to elicit a challenge, suggestions from me, trial by the client and feedback, all with the purpose of discovering whether or how the suggestion worked.

      In the pages that follow you will find ways of making changes in your life that will enable you to live the life you want. All of these recommendations have been tried, tested and found to work by many of my previous clients. However the recommendations will only work for you if you implement them. There is little point in simply reading the book and learning what it says. This is not knowledge presented in order to enable you to pass an exam. It is a personal development programme devised to empower you to create the life you want. Like any other development programme it will only work for you when you implement and practice the steps in the programme.

      Look at it this way: you know how to run, with that knowledge you could run a marathon, but in order to run a long race you need to train, to get fit, to practice running. Life is a long distance event, you know how to live, you are doing it right now, but in order to live the life you want you need to learn and practice the essentials of being the master of your own destiny.

      The simple processes that you are about to discover are practical ways of mastering the use of

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