Shatter Your Self-Doubt: Simple Strategies for Developing Confidence to Live the Dream You Deserve
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Shatter Your Self-Doubt will show you how to develop and build a lasting confidence that boosts your innate power to influence others. Read it if you want to develop the unshakable confidence of a champion in any public setting
Karen E. Grant, author of The Million Dollar Image
If you are struggling with shyness and social anxiety in the company of others, this is a must read.
Mehjabeen Abidi, author of Lets Chat Series Bringing Order to Chaos
Shatter Your Self-Doubt will change your life. It will motivate you to take those small daily, weekly and monthly actions that will eventually compound your life into the courageous and confident champion that you are. A great read.
Wendy Baudin MPA SLC, author of Beam Me Up Hottie
The topic of confidence is vitally important in every area of public life, business, negotiations, presentations and speaking. Everyone in business and public life can benefit by studying and implementing these strategies to boost their confidence to a whole new level
Nicole Normand, author of Why Not You?
Many people lack the confidence to be all that they can be. Thats the reason they end up feeling less than, intimidated and inadequate, lacking personal power. This book will change all that and help you to develop and boost your self-confidence and regain your self-esteem.
Dr. Eleanor Wint, author of I Like Me
You will never enjoy greater success and happiness than that which you will experience through the development of self-confidence
Napoleon Hill
Dr. Mabel Joshua-Amadi
Dr. Mabel Joshua-Amadi came from nothing and single-handedly educated herself with bold confidence to reach the level of a medical director and an academic. She provides teaching and practical support through a registered charity she founded and directs. Liberty International is a charity dedicated to helping the disenfranchised, distressed and disadvantaged improve their attitude and heal from their emotional wounds of the past to reconnect with their families and communities as active and productive members. Many have achieved this goal and regained their self-reliance and financial freedom. Her professional background, as an experienced medical doctor and academic has given her a broad based wealth of experience from which to approach many needs of her clients and customers. She is an inspirational speaker and researcher. Her research interests include motivation, self-esteem, attitude, self-confidence, purposeful living and success principles. You can learn more about her research findings and their practical applications at www.shatteryourselfdoubt.com. Her articles on Motivation have appeared in Nursing Management (December 2002 and January 2003). She is the author of many books including the Power of Attitude that discusses ten attitude types from the positive to the negative that people display.
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Shatter Your Self-Doubt - Dr. Mabel Joshua-Amadi
© 2013 by Dr. Mabel Joshua-Amadi. All rights reserved.
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Published by AuthorHouse 06/20/2013
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Contents
Dedication
Acknowledgements
Preface Why This Book Was Written
Introduction
Chapter 1 What is Confidence?
Chapter 2 Sources of Confidence
Chapter 3 Enemies of Confidence
Chapter 4 Benefits of Confidence
Chapter 5 How to Build Confidence
Chapter 6 Courage to dare
Chapter 7 Persistence Patience and Presidents
Chapter 8 Self-Acceptance
Chapter 9 Attitude
Chapter 10 Self-Appreciation
Chapter 11 Appearance Management
Chapter 12 Ambition
Chapter 13 Special Areas to Build Confidence
Chapter 14 Conclusion
About The Author
If you have no confidence in yourself, you are twice defeated
in the race of life ~ Cicero
Dedication
I dedicate this book to the memory of
my flamboyant and charismatic sister
Dorothy Ikechi Joshuas
Whose daring courage and boundless energy were exemplary
The hopes and dreams we had, now gone forever
Your untimely departure has left us bereft of your noble deeds
We feel so alone and forsaken
He who has conquered doubt and fear has conquered failure ~ James Allen
Acknowledgements
I wish to acknowledge my Supreme Mentor, Teacher, Encourager, Motivator, wonderful Counsellor and Inspirer. Without You I can do nothing but with You, all things become possible. Your daily help and guidance are gratefully appreciated.
I wish to acknowledge my dear parents, Huldah and Joshua Amadi, without whom I may never have aspired to anything. You encouraged me when no one else did and spurred me on to where I am today. Your love and affection formed the foundation of my being. You gave me a wonderful start in life and inculcated values that nurtured my self-esteem. You taught me to believe in myself as a springboard for ambition and courage for action. Thank you for the harvest of your teaching and your lives. You are dearly and greatly missed.
To you the reader, without you none of this would be necessary or applicable. Thank you for your continued support and patronage. May the insights and nuggets from this book make a profound difference as you read and diligently apply them in your personal and professional life to gain the confidence you deserve.
My publishing team of experts at Author House, whose speedy response and professionalism made my book publishing journey a smooth and enjoyable ride. Thank you.
My teachers, Edna Whitehouse, Jim Rohn and Brian Tracy, thank you for your words of wisdom that motivate me to act and apply your teachings to ensure my success.
My spiritual mentors, especially Bishop Wayne Malcolm, whose nuggets of wisdom and insights from the Word have broadened my knowledge and understanding and greatly enriched my life. You are truly the people’s bishop.
My family, especially my sister, Irene Amadi, whose encouragement, advice and prayers have supported, sustained and upheld me through many trials and troubles along my journey. Thank you for your patience and understanding.
My friends, Christiana Meade, Christine Magoba, Gertrude Chirambo, Betty Ngomat, Fleur Ohonbamu; Merly Magno, Therasa Cruz, Regina Magigi and Georgina Museza you were divinely chosen and sent to support, encourage and help me on my journey as I assist you in your mission for mutual success. You have all seen me through difficulties and discouragements. In good times and not so good times you have been there, without asking for any reward. May the Lord uphold you always with His grace and surround you with His favour to greatly enrich your lives as you have enriched mine. Thank you.
Finally to Almighty God, whose assignment this is. To You be all the honour and the glory.
Preface
Why This Book
Was Written
This book evolved out of my struggles with confidence and watching others perform. Everyone craves confidence, the ability to be who they want to be and the courage to pursue and achieve anything they want in their personal and professional lives. Unfortunately not many people have the confidence to be or the courage to do.
Having watched many speakers, preachers and presenters struggle with delivering their message in a clear and convincing way to a hungry audience with varying degrees of success, I realised that something needs to be done to alleviate their suffering and ease their discomfort for the sake of their eager listeners.
I remember my own struggle with building confidence and having the courage to speak in front of strangers. I can relate with the embarrassment, misery and utter humiliation when I had to present cases on medical rounds and I became so fussed that my mind went completely blank. For the life of me I could not even remember the patient’s name let alone present his case to an eager and waiting audience.
Having now conquered my lack of confidence borne out of childhood shyness my goal is to help those still struggling with self-consciousness in public places, those who are frightened and terrified of social gatherings and those who lack the poise, confidence and ability to think logically on their feet and speak convincingly and clearly to any crowd or club of people to deliver their important relevant messages.
My Personal Story
As a middle child among siblings I struggled with self-confidence for many years. I was dominated from above and expected to perform from below. Being sandwiched between these two demanding forces at the time, our parents did their best to spread their love and affection evenly amongst their children. However, it was not always possible for them to be there to protect us from sibling rivalry.
I was always content in my own company and so avoided attack from above, below and from outsiders. I had nothing to say to anyone but was focused on my books.
Even after qualifying as a medical doctor, I used to hide my shyness behind the consultation table and attend to patients according to the rule books and protocols.
The change came when I had to run my own medical centre. I had to go out and attract managers and chief executives of industries as clients. My desperation to make the centre profitable became my inspiration to develop and build confidence.
The wings of my confidence further took flight to skyrocket during my doctorate research studies. I had to overcome gatekeepers and personal assistants to get to directors and chief executives, to interview them for my research. These rather small achievements helped me to build confidence over time. Since then my confidence has not looked back. My inspiration to develop and build self-confidence came from my desperate need to grow my business and to succeed. Now my goal is to help others to achieve the same success in their personal and professional lives.
Introduction
Whether you come from a council estate or a country estate, your success will be determined by your own confidence and fortitude
Michelle Obama
Everyone yearns for self-confidence because it makes life so much easier and so much fun. Without self-confidence success in any area of life is nigh impossible. You must first believe that you are and have a right to be, to do and to have before you can achieve any measure of success. Without belief in yourself as a worthwhile and valuable person here on earth to accomplish an assignment or purpose, you cannot trust in your ability to succeed. Without success in any area, you’ll beat yourself up, struggle and drown yourself in discouragement and doubt. With struggles, failings and frustrations, disillusionment and defeat become inevitable.
You need confidence to succeed in life and a measure of success to develop and build confidence. Confidence is a learnable and transferable skill affecting all areas of life. Without it your self-esteem, identity and inter-personal relationships suffer.
Confidence does not come from without. Confidence comes from within you. It is founded and based on your knowledge of who you are and a belief in your ability. Confidence gained by doing can be transferred