Deep & Wide: Raising Children Deep in Jesus and Wide in Influence
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What makes some children love God with all their heart and others reject Him? What can a parent do to fight against this evil culture that wants to rob, steal, and kill their childrens relationship with Christ?
As most of us know, the enemy uses many tools to influence our children so they will rebel and reject the Lord. Being young, curious, and easily deceived, they make great targets for the evil one.
This book prepares parents to fill the kind of roles in their childrens lives that are needed in order for their children to develop a close relationship with them and with Christ. Parents can learn how to help their children be proactive in their faith with Christ and lead themselves and others with Gods love and power in an evil culture, and not be led by it.
Parents can find hope, practical help, and motivation to move forward. With God, parents can scale a wall and advance against a troop; no matter the difficulties they face, they can do all things through Christ who gives them great strength and weighty influence to lead their children.
Marcie D. Cramsey
Marcie Cramsey has a zeal for helping parents surrender their lives to God and out of that relationship raise up devoted followers of Christ through their children. She currently holds the position as children’s minister at Fairview at River Club and has been in ministry to families and children for over twenty-five years, including creating a discipleship ministry for children, conducting family counseling, and coaching leaders for ministry. She and her husband of more than twenty-six years have three sons, one daughter, and one son-in-law. They reside in the beautiful small town of Culpeper, Virginia.
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Deep & Wide - Marcie D. Cramsey
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Contents
Dedication
Acknowledgments
Introduction
Deep in Jesus
Chapter One The Victorious Parent
Chapter Two The Doorkeeper Parent
Chapter Three The Teaching Parent
Chapter Four The Shepherding Parent
Wide in Influence
Chapter Five The Suffering Parent
Chapter Six The Serving Parent
Chapter Seven The Empowering Parent
Chapter Eight The Sending Parent
Closing Challenge
My Prayer for You
Endnotes
About the Author
Dedication
For Jesus Christ, who is my Savior, and my heavenly Father—without You, Lord, I am nothing. With You, I am a powerful tool in your hand. Thank you for allowing me to minister to many people at the leading and empowerment of Your Spirit.
For my husband, Dan—you are one of my biggest supporters. When I felt like I could not continue to write or find the time for this book, you encouraged me and prayed for me. I couldn’t do ministry without you! You truly know how to love your wife as Jesus loves the church!
For my four children, Matthew, Ashleigh, Nicholas, and Scott—I love being your mom and friend. Each of you has been my biggest fan, and you have taught me much about being a godly parent. I love your hearts for God and seeing Him use you for His glory! You are my dream come true!
For my mother, Penny Sizemore—you gave me the example of a good mom to follow. You have prayed for me, believed in me, and financially helped support this endeavor. Thank you for your heart for God, your example to follow, and for your confidence in me. You’re the best!
Acknowledgments
Thank you, WestBow Press, for giving me the chance to speak to a broader audience than that in my current sphere of influence. I am grateful for this opportunity to publish a book that has been passionately on my heart for over ten years. Each person I have worked with at WestBow has been a great encouragement to me.
Thank you, McLean Bible Church, for influencing me spiritually and equipping me to be the servant leader God intended me to be. Thank you for your time, effort, and being God’s vessel that strengthened me in the Lord. In particular, thanks to LeAnn Smart, who saw a gift of leadership and passion for children in me. You gave me a chance to follow God’s leading, and because of your confidence in me, I am where I am today, making an impact on children and their parents around me.
Thank You, Jesus, my one and only, my forever friend, and my persistent Savior; I am yours always. Thank You for having me, loving me unconditionally, and accepting me where I am but not leaving me there. I love You and forever will.
Introduction
The War for Our Children’s Souls
Satan is evil. His dealings are always evil. He will never change. However, it seems that in these latter days, he is more blatant with his evil than ever—or maybe I am just more aware of it. One night, my family was watching So You Think You Can Dance on TV. The song by Lady GaGa, Judas,
was one of the songs being danced to by a young couple. I had no idea what the lyrics to the song were, and regrettably, we watched. In the performance, two dancers came out of Pandora’s Box. As they danced to this song, I listened in horror as the lyrics rang out blasphemies: Jesus is my virtue, and Judas is the demon I cling to.
My heart sank!
There are times when I am overcome with oppression by the blatant evil of Satan! Sadly, in today’s culture, children and teens listen to these songs along with many others that profane and disrespect not only God, but also parents, authority, and the sanctity of life. They listen to this without flinching because they have become accustomed to this way of life. They are hooded from God’s truth because they are so steeped in sin’s blinders.
Children as young as those in third grade are exposed to immoral sex, drugs, alcohol, revealing dress, disrespect for authority, and much more. At every turn, our children are exposed to constant evil on TV, in the theaters, in the books they read, in the video games they play, and even in Disney movies. The evil of this world is in their schools, neighborhoods, and many homes.
A parent at church asked me why it was important to teach the children in the fourth and fifth grades about how to fight depression, the subject of suicide, avoiding self-injury, developing emotional maturity, demons, the Devil, hell, and how to develop biblical purity. My response was, If we don’t help our children learn how to reach out to Jesus and combat the evil that they are exposed to with the truth of God’s Word, be assured, Satan will certainly reach out to them and lure them into the evil he presents to them.
It saddens me that these issues are exposed to our children at such an early age. It is unfortunate that their childhoods are robbed from them and their innocence is being stripped. However, instead of sitting in our sadness, horror, and regret of it all, we must not ignore our culture. We must rise up and fight for the souls of our children. If Christians and parents don’t reckon with this reality, they could lose their children to the Devil in the end. We have to be proactive, not passive. We are warriors in God’s kingdom. We must enlist in this war!
There are some Christian young adults who walk away from Christ, while others serve Him with full vigor all their lives. I have often pondered what causes this difference. While I will not go into all the intricacies of this dilemma, I will ask you a question. If you knew the mandate that would insure your child’s walk with God would be strong for the rest of his or her life, would you take the time to learn, grow in, and live it? I am aware that there are many variables to this subject matter. I also know that our children have free will and can and will make their own choices, but we must not allow this fact cripple us into giving up, stopping the fight, or simply relenting to their wills. We serve a God of great power! If we have accepted Christ in our lives as our Savior, His Spirit inhabits us. This Spirit gives us great strength and weighty influence on our children, for we are not given a spirit of fear but of power.
I have seen many parents give up too soon on their children who have drifted away. They stop the influence they once had as they despaired in their children’s poor choices. They place their children’s free will higher than God’s power to change them. This can manifest itself when parents say, My child has free will; there isn’t much I can do now
or I did the best I could for them; it’s their turn to step up.
It is true that there is a time in our children’s lives when they are more moldable and teachable, but no matter their age, we must not forget that we serve a God who is more powerful than all the evil impressed upon and even sought out by our children. At all turns and no matter what stage our children are in, we must take advantage of the teachable periods in their lives while they are ripe; we must tap into the wisdom and power of God that He has graciously and generously given us. It is time to rise up and invest in our children! It is time to charge forward and keep what the Devil wants to steal, kill, and destroy.
Knowledge of God is one of the most important growth points to nurture in our children’s hearts. It is the only eternal gift we can give them. All else on this earth will pass away. Earth is not our home; eternity is. Making the intentional choice to live and rear our children in this paradigm is our only choice. It is our best choice! If we don’t live here in our parenting, sadly, there is a time when our influence becomes dimmer as the years pass by, making it more difficult for our children to come to the truth.
I am not saying that if you have a distant, rebellious teenager that there is no hope for him or her. That would be a lie. There is always a chance for change through the power of our God. As long as our children live and breathe, there is always hope. Prayer is one of the most powerful tools that we often neglect in parenting. Prayer can bring the power of God down from heaven to earth and change the hearts of our teens. I know, because there was a time when my own mother thought all was completely lost for me as a teen. Nevertheless, in the darkest evil place of my life, God intervened and radically changed me. The power of prayer did it. The perseverance of my mother prevailed. Her relentless teaching communicated God’s constant love for me. She, my grandmother, and a group of people at church met weekly and prayed for me. They did this for a number of years. I’m a testimony to those prayers. I would not be where I am today if these prayer warriors did not enlist in the battle for me.
We serve an all-powerful, awesome God! He is strong and mighty; He is completely able to combat the Devil at every angle he takes to keep our children from God’s love. God has given us a mandate—a handbook on how to fight the ever-present evil that surrounds our children. The truth is found in His Word; the covering for sin has been supplied by the blood of His Son, Jesus Christ; and the power to overcome the evil one is sourced in the Holy Spirit, who indwells us when we accept Christ as our Savior. Through the Word, worship, and prayer, we find wisdom, strength, and protection. We have been freely given what is needed to fight the evil one. The problem lies in whether we will receive, tap into, and employ this gift that God has given us.
Raising children can be a challenging experience; yet it is also a rewarding and honorable role given to us by God. I believe with all my heart that its success relies on our willingness to submit to Him and give Him the reigns in our parenting. This book will teach you how to help your children grow in their relationship with you and ultimately with Jesus. You will learn how to go from being Mom and Dad to being mentors, coaches, and leaders so that you will have a lasting influence and impact on their souls, even when they have left home. This book will also teach you how to help your children be wide in their influence with others. It is easy today for kids to be influenced by their culture. With the culture being as evil as it is, it is essential that children are taught how to be the influencers, not the influenced. Being the influencer not only gives them opportunities to lead others to Jesus, but also is a matter of spiritual survival!
Just raising our children in Christian homes and going to church every Sunday does not insure that our children will have a deep love for Jesus and choose to follow Him all their lives. It is certainly a good start. Recently, a missionary visited one of the parenting small groups my husband and I taught. She came to give testimony of her mission trip. At the end of her testimony, a parent asked her what her parents did when she was growing up that gave her such a deep love for Jesus. She shared that her parents loved God, took their children to church, and made the resources available for them to grow spiritually. This is awesome, and I say, Way to go, parents!
As the missionary’s reply continued, what struck me was what she wished for growing up. She said that while her parents were good Christians and faithful churchgoers, she wished they had spent more time intentionally teaching her and her siblings the Bible. She yearned for that time at home in the Word with her parents and her family as one unit. She believed that if she had that, her walk with God would have been