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    You NEED Therapy.: EMDR: Real People, With Real Problems, Getting Real Help
    You NEED Therapy.: EMDR: Real People, With Real Problems, Getting Real Help
    You NEED Therapy.: EMDR: Real People, With Real Problems, Getting Real Help
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    You NEED Therapy.: EMDR: Real People, With Real Problems, Getting Real Help

    By Robert Grigore

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    What exactly IS Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing? While EMDR is beginning to gather great speed in its hype for being the fastest, and most effective form of treatment out there to treat almost any issue, many are still confused as to what it actually is.

    Maybe you've heard of EMDR before, or maybe this is your first time, or maybe you just know that you need some kind of help but don't know which route to take—whatever it is, this book may be the most important book you ever read. It's short, simple, and gets straight to the point: You NEED Therapy. Specifically, you need EMDR therapy. Why? Because countless people have already done so, and they are living their lives no longer trapped by their previously limiting thoughts, beliefs, and overwhelming emotional and psychological blocks. They are now free to live their lives how they really want to.

    This book is about: Real People, With Real Problems, Getting Real Help.

    "Real people, real therapy, real help. Robert Grigore has penned a great, informative book that therapists can use to help put EMDR therapy into perspective for clients, family members of clients and even simplify the essence of EMDR therapy for clinicians. His book takes the mystery out of it and can put folks at ease as they go through the process.

    He is heartfelt and honest and simple in his presentation.

    This little book also helps to normalize the thoughts and feelings that go along with any trauma, big or small and opens up thinking to accept what has happened in life and work towards moving past it."

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherTellwell Talent
    Release dateJun 14, 2018
    ISBN9781773708010
    You NEED Therapy.: EMDR: Real People, With Real Problems, Getting Real Help
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    Robert Grigore

    About the Author:Robert A. Grigore, MCP, RCC is a Registered Clinical Counsellor specializing in trauma therapy. He is also an EMDRIA Certified EMDR Therapist.Having discovered the real truth that "trauma" occurs far more frequently than he ever knew, Robert was able to finally put his childhood experiences into context. Armed with the realization that trauma is everywhere, and everyone is traumatized, Robert has devoted his professional life to healing others--even if they didn't know that they were actually traumatized!Robert's mission is to not only treat his clients with EMDR, but to help bring this powerful form of treatment to millions around the world.Robert received his Bachelor of Arts degree from Ryerson University in Toronto, Ontario, Canada, and later completed his Master of Counselling Psychology degree from Adler University in Vancouver, British Columbia, Canada. He owns and operates a downtown private practice where he uses EMDR to treat both individuals and couples. Robert's services are available in-person and online (in select cases).

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      You NEED Therapy. - Robert Grigore

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      Table of Contents

      WHY DO YOU NEED THIS BOOK?

      Don’t worry, you’re not alone

      YOU have been traumatized

      Why positive thinking doesn’t work

      OK…So what do I do now?

      So…EMDR works right?

      How EMDR works:

      The AIP Model of Change

      How EMDR can help you heal

      How to get the most out of EMDR

      References

      Resources

      Copyrights

      DISCLAIMER: The content in this book is not intended to diagnose, treat, or in any way be substituted for professional psychotherapeutic treatment. The content in this book is intended to be used for informational and/or educational purposes only. Any other use is strictly prohibited.

      Why did I write this book? I wrote this book for you. Simple as that. I want you to be able to live your life how you really want to. So many people are stuck living as a reaction to the problems they experience throughout their lives—some of which occurred in the past, some of which occur daily.

      So many people are saddled with negative beliefs of their worth, or their abilities; and so many individuals are stuck repeating the same old patterns of their personal life’s drama. Many people believe these patterns are simply the way it is for them, not realizing that their destiny isn’t about suffering or managing their way through their suffering—because it’s not! It’s about something different. Your destiny is about what happens after you get through that suffering. But, you must want to get through it, otherwise, you will be destined to repeat that suffering over, and over, and over again.

      This book will help you awaken yourself to the reality of your suffering (where it comes from and why), and then show you how easy it can be to get relief. Spoiler-alert: I recommend that you seriously consider a type of therapy called, Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), as your vehicle to take you to your destination of relief. That’s right: EMDR. Nothing else comes close.

      If you want real results that let you know your life is actually changing, and you want these results in considerably less time than you would probably get with regular talk therapy, then EMDR is for you. If you’re looking to hang out with your counsellor and have a conversation that you could have with a close friend over a coffee…then EMDR is probably not for you—at least not yet. EMDR cuts right through the surface fluff and gets to the heart of your pain, that is, the memories responsible for them.

      Let me tell you a little bit about suffering. There’s all kinds of it out there, and I want you to know that I’m no stranger to it. Before I began my career as psychotherapist, and well before I started my education in psychology, my suffering was my education. I learned what emotional pain felt like, and I found out early in my life, that this was a feeling that I wouldn’t wish on anybody. Let me share with you a little bit about my story. I think it’s important that we get to know each other—that’s how we build trust.

      Picture this scene: It’s dusk now. The sun is setting over the horizon of this beautiful resort in the Caribbean, overlooking a white, sandy beach. The waves of the Atlantic Ocean brush onto the shore like the eyelids of Mother Nature as she looks back at me. The warm, yet salty breeze gently sways the palm trees back and forth, as they make a light rustle. I feel like I’m cocooned on the 12th floor balcony, as I’m sipping on a rum and coke in a little plastic hotel-room cup. My partner is next to me—a beautiful young woman for whom I’ve fallen deeply in love with. Her black hair frames her athletic face, and her eyes tell stories of her depth that I fear I can never know. I believe I will marry this soul one day.

      She looks over to me, and says, You’re a worthless, filthy piece of shit. You and your diseased cock will always be alone, and no one will ever love you…except maybe your prostitutes.

      My heart sinks into the bottom of my stomach. The shame I feel touches my essence, and suddenly I’m feeling rage as defiance begins to bubble through my veins. I look at her in shock, as I begin to process what she’s just said to me. I start to defend myself, and lash out at her, calling her names like gold digger, slut, and whatever else I could use to protect myself. Suddenly I become aware of the amount of expense that I’ve incurred to bring this woman to tropical paradise, and how little I feel I’m being appreciated. For a struggling student working in the ghettos of Vancouver, British Columbia (that’s the Downtown Eastside for those of you unfamiliar), CAD $5,000+ is a lot of money. At this point, I’m aware of how awful this relationship truly is, and how broken we really are. I begin to feel the grief as I allow the relationship to settle into reality, away from the fantasy of perfection, where it was just a few minutes ago.

      I get up to leave and she begins to hit me. She slaps my face and punches me in the chest. (I don’t remember where else she hit me, or how many times, but I remember trying to close the balcony door and lock her outside.) She keeps her leg braced in between the sliding door and the wall. At this point we are screaming at each other. It’s a kind of anger and hostility that I’ve never seen before. Finally, I give up. Fine. There’s no use fighting. She slams the door open and storms to the other end of the hotel room. I’m looking at her from just in front of the balcony now. She turns around, glaring at me. I’ve never seen anyone look at me so. And in a flash of a moment, she’s sprinting to the edge of the balcony…and she jumps. My stomach drops…

      …

      …

      …

      Let’s rewind about a decade and a half earlier:

      I’m 11-years old. I’m staring deeply into my full-length mirror, at those big, brown eyes that meet me in return. They seem to see into my very soul. My eyelids begin burning as a single tear begins running down my face. I feel heat rising from under my cheeks; it’s spreading now like wildfire through my throat, shoulders, and chest as I flex my flabby arms. It starts off as a silent protest, with just a sense…nothing more. Then, suddenly, I scream to myself as if the Heavens can hear me without words, "You’re fat! You’re disgusting! You’re a piece of shit. Nobody likes you. This is why you’re alone. You’re ugly."

      These words hurt so much, I can barely stand it. I begin beating myself. THUMP! As I punch my gut. SMACK! As I slap my breasts thinking, "Men aren’t supposed to have breasts." I can feel the blood vessels burst as I pinch my fat under my arms, leaving bruises, and I can see the hand marks I leave as I try to peel my stomach off my body. Ahh, I breathe a sigh of relief.

      I was inflicting physical pain on myself so that I could distract myself away from the emotional pain I experienced deep inside.

      It was not until later in my life that I recognized my anger with God, and life itself, was due to my unhappiness with my life. Why was I leading this life? Why was I the fat kid who was always alone? Why couldn’t I have been born into the athlete’s life who got all the girls and had tons of male friends, and got to strut around with the masculine, testosterone-fuelled body? Why was I always just so alone? Why did I have to feel like I was always looking in from outside my life’s window, at all those people

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