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    The Comparing Game: Escape the Comparing Paradigm, Embrace your own Uniqueness, be your True Self
    The Comparing Game: Escape the Comparing Paradigm, Embrace your own Uniqueness, be your True Self
    The Comparing Game: Escape the Comparing Paradigm, Embrace your own Uniqueness, be your True Self
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    The Comparing Game: Escape the Comparing Paradigm, Embrace your own Uniqueness, be your True Self

    By Grace Scott

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    Stop Comparing Yourself to Others


    Have you ever questioned your standing in life or your worth simply due to comparing yourself with others? This practice, called social comparing, is widespread in modern-day society. Our perception of the society is shaped through observation, experiencing new things, and communicating with other people. It’s important that we don’t form a negative view of ourselves due to making comparisons with other people.

    Routinely asking yourself questions such as "Why did he get a promotion while I'm stuck in this position?", "Will we ever have as nice a house as they do?", or "How can I be as happy as she is in life?". These questions will ultimately lead down to a dark road.

    Unfortunately, social comparing has taken over some people's daily lives. To prevent becoming trapped in the comparing mindset, it's essential that you understand the reasons behind the habit and the long-term effects that it has. Grace Scott will delve into this phenomenon in "The Comparing Game".
     

    Here Is A Preview Of What You'll Learn..

    • How to Get Out of The Comparing Mentality

    • Why It's Always Unfair -- and Futile -- to Make Comparisons

    • How to Break Free of The Comparing Mindset

    • Why Resentment is Directly Tired to Comparing Yourself with Others

    • Real Examples of How Others Have Overcome Social Comparison

    Constantly making social comparisons is a roadblock from reaching your goals and achieving your best, most fulfilling life.

    In "The Comparing Game", You will find out the tools you need to understand the thought process behind social comparison, eliminate this practice from your life, and start measuring your happiness and success through self-exploration.
     

    Would You Like to Know More?

    Download Now and Free Yourself From Social Comparison.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherGrace Scott
    Release dateJan 22, 2018
    ISBN9781386888598
    The Comparing Game: Escape the Comparing Paradigm, Embrace your own Uniqueness, be your True Self
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    Grace Scott

    Grace Scott was born and raised in Vancouver, BC, Canada in the year of 1979. She held a bachelor of Arts degree with exceptionally high honors. Grace Scott published one of her bestselling book "The Power of Not Caring" in the year 2013. Her works also included "The Materialistic World". In 2014, Grace Scott launched two of her new books "The Comparing Game" and "The Secret of Creating Your Reality". Grace Scott is a wise and gentle spiritual teacher living in Vancouver with her 3 loving cats. Grace hoped to change thoughts and lives of people with her unique way of teachings in her books. Grace Scott has also been helping and inspiring countless people to find peace and love even in the most extreme circumstances. Grace believed in celebrating life and accept every single day with gratitude and love. She also believed that everyone deserved to live with joy, release struggle, experience peace, love, and abundance in everyday lives.

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    • 5/5
      One of the best ‘self-help’ books I’ve ever bought.
      I’ve stacked my shelves with self-help as long as I can remember and although many many books have spoken to me, this one has truly help me! The difference? It’s not just explaining why we compare or what types of comparison traps we might fall into but it has samples and provides structured resources to help you think more deeply about how you can overcome your comparison and stay on your own journey. Great read!

      9 people found this helpful

    • 4/5
      This book is brilliant. Filled with practical tips and helpful activities to help you overcome the negative side of comparison, but the formatting of the book can have some improvement.
    • 5/5
      That's the thing with this book, it's not dwelling on the issue of comparison, it's encouraging you to move away from those toxic behaviours and take back control of your one precious life. And that's where the real change can set in. Grace's friendly approach gives you full permission to be yourself, something which many of us who struggle with comparison have denied ourselves, and that permission feels tangible in the pages of this book.
    • 5/5
      I think this book is an excellent material not only for academics but also for those people who wants to know their selfs better, understand other people behavior, and their surrounding relationships.
    • 5/5
      This is a great book with lots of good tips for dealing with comparing games. it has really good suggestions on how to live with your inner critic. I really love it.
    • 5/5
      This book contains sound and easy-to-follow advice for people who are trying to escape from Comparing Paradigm. More importantly, it is well-written, witty, interesting, and enjoyable to read. It's so good, I couldn't put it down, which is an amazing accomplishment for a self-help book.

      4 people found this helpful

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    The Comparing Game - Grace Scott

    Introduction

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    When Albert Einstein publicized his theories of general and special relativity, our understanding of our own universe escalated beyond the wildest imaginations of scientists and visionaries at the time.  The reason for this was that instead of trying to explain mechanisms of the universe through an arbitrary process of evaluation, Einstein put the spotlight on all the dynamics of our forces by comparing them to each other. Energy, mass, gravity, and hundreds of other similar physical forces suddenly found new meaning respective to each other. Einstein may have been the genius behind a modern understanding of our world, but the concept he applied to his work is centuries old.

    The comparison is the cornerstone on which human beings develop their definitions of success and failure, and it is the scale we all use to ensure that we understand our own actions and desires. The fact of the matter is that our society functions by setting goals that are meant to supersede others. We only understand another person’s actions in relevance to our own and we attach personal opinions to everything for this very reason.

    This is not the fault of any one individual; it is the foundation upon which entire communities are built. How does an average student hunt for a good university begin? Higher education institutions are ranked according to their compared assets and services. A university is considered ‘good’ by marking it up to a ‘bad’ one. High school graduates spend their days attaching their self-worth and goals to a degree that must come from a reputable university. Why? This is, amongst other reasons, to compare themselves with their fellow classmates, friends, and family and on a broader scale, their very generation. 

    All decisions we make for ourselves are the result of a comparison we make between what we think is right for us and what isn’t, and it goes much farther than that. We chose everything we own by comparing it to what others do. We make our choices based on the methods we believe are best at fitting into a competitive society and when all is said and done, we review the results of our ‘life’ by pitting them against those of everybody else.

    A simple more relevant example here is the recent phenomena of social networking sites, while these sites parade around as a means of contact and friendship; they are actually a method through which people keep tabs on their friends and acquaintances. As soon as a user logs in, they are referred to pages full of latest updates collected from friends’ profiles.

    Thus, as soon as one is logged on, they begin seeing and judging what is going on with other people's lives and immediately compares their own selves to it. People see new photos uploaded by their acquaintances. They see other people post about their recent activities (usually positive) and immediately start a mental checklist designed to breed comparison.  It is often said that one should never compare the ‘behind-the-scenes’ of their life to somebody else’s

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