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    Reflections: A Collection of Short Articles
    Reflections: A Collection of Short Articles
    Reflections: A Collection of Short Articles
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    Reflections: A Collection of Short Articles

    By Raymond McAlister

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    This book is a compilation of thirty short articles, religious in nature, on a wide variety of subjects. The articles include such subjects as Atheists, Baptist Heritage, The Call to Preach, Church Music, Closed Communion, Cremation, Grieving, Heaven, Sabbath Day, Salvation, Scientology, Suicide, Women Preachers, and more. Each article is approximately three pages long. The book is an easy read.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherRaymond McAlister
    Release dateSep 5, 2014
    ISBN9781311303134
    Reflections: A Collection of Short Articles
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    Raymond McAlister

    Born in Arkansas. Attended UALR and Missionary Baptist Seminary in Little Rock. Was pastor of Landmark Baptist Church in Indianapolis for thirty years. Worked with the Macedonian Missionary service of Polk City, Florida, for nine years. Was president of Emmaus Baptist College in Brandon, Florida, for eleven years. Received B.A. and honorary D.D. degrees from Florida Baptist College in Lakeland, Florida. Received M.A. and D. Min. degrees from Heritage Baptist University in Greenwood, Indiana. Has written "A Biblical Study of Tongues," Reflections: A Collection of Short Articles," and two Bible study books that have been translated and used in over a dozen languages. He has taught, lectured, and preached in sixteen states and six foreign countries.

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      Reflections - Raymond McAlister

      All of us have known pastors who have become involved with another woman and as a result destroyed their ministry, their family and sometimes their church. Another problem is, not only did it affect his ministry; it affected the ministry of pastors and churches in general.

      What I am about to write may not be scientifically correct but are my personal opinions based on what I have read, heard, observed and experienced during my 50 years of ministry.

      To me there seems to be two kinds of affairs. The first is based solely on pure, unadulterated lust. You might call it the one night stand. There is no emotional attachment involved. There is no love involved. It is simply a sexual experience. This was the kind of affair King David had with Bathsheba. He saw her, she was beautiful, he lusted after her and he had sex with her, period. Had she not become pregnant, that would have been the end of the story.

      All of us have seen women to whom we have been physically attracted. We may have even had some less than pure thoughts. However, in a little while the thoughts are gone and the attraction has passed. In my opinion, if a man is not able to control his sexual passions he should not be in the ministry.

      This first type of affair is not the kind that most pastors become involved in. The large majority of pastors who have had affairs were not out looking for someone to have sex with and probably felt they would never have an affair. The second type is much more subtle than the first. It comes in small steps and sneaks up on you.

      The first little step is the pastor being around the woman. A man will not be drawn into an affair with a woman he does not spend some time with. It is often unavoidable for a pastor not to be around some women. However, pastors have had affairs with secretaries, women they are counseling or others they have spent time alone with. Pastors should be careful about being alone with women. As Barney said, Nip it in the bud!

      There is a mistaken idea that men only have affairs with women who are more attractive than their wives. From my observation men often have affairs with women who are not as good looking as their wives.

      Step two is when emotional attachment begins. The man begins to think about the woman when he is not around her. He thinks how wonderful she is and thinks of all of her good qualities.

      When you get ready to buy a new car, isn’t it strange how many things you can find wrong with your old car? Your wife doesn’t do things like Miss Wonderful. Your wife just doesn’t understand you. You married the wrong woman. This is the one you should have married in the first place. Life would be so wonderful with her. Some even go so far as to actually believe it is God’s will to be with this new woman!

      At this step red flags should be jumping up all over the place! Danger warnings should be flashing in your brain. This is the time to ask, What in the world am I doing? This is the time to correct the situation. This is the place to admit to yourself and God that your thoughts are wrong. Jesus said, For from within, out of the heart of men, proceed evil thoughts, adulteries, fornications . . . (Mark 7:21).

      If you find you cannot control your thoughts about a woman, you may find it necessary to separate yourself from her—even to the point of resigning your church and moving!

      Up to this point there have been no outward signs of romance. The poor woman may not have any idea of your feelings for her. She may even laugh when she finds out. But then, she may have the same feelings or she may even be instigating the whole thing. That really does not matter because the responsibility is yours, not hers!

      Thinking about her may go on for months or even years without going any further. But, the next step is to want to buy her a little something. It will probably be something small, something that wouldn’t attract attention. When you give her a gift, even a little one, you have crossed a line that will be difficult to go back across. You have now gone from thinking to doing.

      The next logical step is to touch her. I am not talking about touching inappropriately. Maybe her hair, or her hand, or her arm. You have now made physical contact. How wonderful it all seems, how right it feels.

      From here you could almost chart the future. By now you have convinced yourself that you are madly in love with each other. You will hold her in your arms, you will kiss her lips and eventually you will have sex with her. It will probably be the most breath-taking, exhilarating, passionate sexual experience you have ever had. You never intended to wind up here, but here you are.

      Now look at the mess you have gotten yourself into. You have a wife and kids who want and need you at home with them. But now you have another woman who wants you to divorce your wife, leave your kids and marry her. You find yourself in the most gut wrenching experience of your lifetime. You know you should be with your wife and kids, but you want to be with this perfect new woman. What are you going to do? You are going to lose either way you go. There is no easy way to get out of this mess you have made of your life. Someone is going to get hurt. There may not be an easy way, but there is a right way—God’s way.

      Some really dumb pastors have felt they could divorce their wives, marry this perfect woman and go right on with their ministry as if nothing had happened. That isn’t going to happen. Your ministry is over! You had better go out and get an honest job.

      I have some more sad news for you, as wonderful as you think life is going to be with Miss Wonderful, it won’t be. Once the glitter has worn off, you will be back in the same place you were before, except she will never trust you and you will never trust her.

      A man who had just remarried was asked how things were. The man replied, Wonderful. A couple of years later the man was asked the same question. This time the he replied, Same hell, different devil.

      There is an old true saying, Remember, the grass may look greener on the other side of the fence, but it has to be mowed too.

      If you allow yourself to get this deep into the relationship, what should you do? You already know that the right thing is to say goodbye to the new woman and go back to your wife and children. In my opinion you should resign your church, move and rebuild your family relationships. This experience can be a stepping-stone to an even better marriage than you had before. Your ministry may have been damaged but it can be salvaged.

      But, the best thing is to not let it get this far. As soon as you realize that you are becoming emotionally involved with a woman, run to God, confess it to Him and get busy building a better relationship with your wife.

      If you are a preacher you may be thinking I would never do anything like that. If that is what you think, you’re an idiot and will probably be one of the first ones to get involved with someone else. Let him that thinketh he standeth take heed lest he fall (1 Corinthians 10:12).

      Be careful because what you do reflects on God, on your family, on your church and on me.

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      2. The Anointed Cherub

      The instructors here at Emmaus Baptist College all sign our doctrinal statement. In the section that deals with Satan being a fallen angel, Dr. Michael Seals, our proficient language instructor, marked out the word angel and had written cherub above it before he signed it. When I approached him later and asked why he had done this, he replied that the Bible never calls Satan an angel but a cherub. I just hate it when people make me think. Just when you think you have something all figured out, someone has to come along and mess it all up.

      When I did a little research on the subject, sure enough, the only time it comes close to calling Satan an angel is in 2 Corinthians 11:14. It says, . . .Satan himself is transformed into an angel of light. That does not say that Satan is an angel but that he sometimes appears to be one. However, he is clearly called a cherub.

      Just what is a cherub anyway? Most commentaries will say that cherubim and seraphim are different orders of angels. Dr. Seals disagrees. He believes that angels are one thing, cherubim (plural of cherub) are another and seraphim are another. The more I study the subject the more I am inclined to agree with him.

      The word angel means messenger or one that is sent. That is, they go and do whatever God sends them to do. It could be to deliver a message, as the angel Gabriel did, or it could be to destroy, as the angel did in 1 Chronicles 21. Angels do not seem to have physical bodies but in the Bible they sometime appeared in the form of men. The pre-incarnate Jesus was called an angel when he appeared to people. These appearances of Jesus in the Old Testament are called theophanys. Michael is called the archangel (not an archangel) in Jude verse 9. Archangel means the head or chief angel and as far as I can tell, there is only one chief angel.

      Cherub or cherubim is used 91 times in the Old Testament. The exact meaning of the word is uncertain. In Ezekiel 28:14 it is said of Satan, Thou art the anointed cherub that covereth; and I have set thee so . . . What does it mean that God has set Satan as the anointed cherub that covereth? In the Old Testament men were anointed to set them in their office. (Anoint just means to pour oil on someone.) For example, Aaron was

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