The Perfect Relationship: How to Grow and Heal With Your Partner - A 10-Step Guide
By Astra Niedra
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Learn the 10 vital steps to create a relationship that itself becomes a wise teacher and safe container for healing and growth.
This straightforward guide, highly recommended by relationship therapists worldwide, is by Astra Niedra, an Australian teacher of the personal and relationship growth work Voice Dialogue.
First published in 2003 to critical acclaim, this 2nd edition remains a trusted guide to the basics of relationship bliss, encapsulating the spirit of Voice Dialogue for couples wanting to use this powerful transformational work in their relationship.
Whether you're starting out in a new relationship or looking to revitalise and deepen a long-standing one, these 10 steps give you a clear path for creating the relationship you want.
"This book could really save your relationship..." - Rebecca
"We want you to know how much we enjoyed your book... My husband Peter and I are using it as a guide." - Francesca
"I loved your book. It was very easy to read, and really brought my awareness to the 'mother' part of me even though I have no children! Not surprisingly, the first step has been the hardest. How can something so simple as spending time in your partner's energy feel so alien?
It's been great working through the book with my fiancé, I appreciate him and our relationship a lot more when looking at it from a different perspective." - Narrah
"This was really enlightening. ...it provides eye-opening info and easy to understand cures for stalled relationships. An absolutely stellar read." Laura
"...filled with powerful yet easy to apply methods that can really improve any type of relationship. I recommend this book wholeheartedly." Michael Domeyko Rowland
"A wonderfully simple, clear and practical book on relationship that will be of great help to anyone who reads it. Astra Niedra has an ability to work with very profound ideas and translate them into language that makes them available to people with little psychological experience." Drs Hal and Sidra Stone
Astra Niedra
Astra Niedra is a facilitator and teacher of Voice Dialogue and the Psychology of Selves, a unique approach to personal growth that involves working with the parts, or inner selves, of the psyche.Voice Dialogue leads to greater awareness, understanding and compassion (for oneself and others), inner balance and wholeness, and ultimately more conscious choice in how we express ourselves and lead our lives.Through her website and books Astra shares how to use the life-transforming ideas from Voice Dialogue in day-to-day living.You'll find help with relationships of all types, decision-making, stress-relief, balancing competing needs, perfectionism and inner criticism, creative expression, parenting, and more.The founders of Voice Dialogue, Drs Hal and Sidra Stone, highly recommend Astra's work, and the late Shakti Gawain considered Voice Dialogue one of the most powerful tools she had ever discovered.
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The Perfect Relationship - Astra Niedra
"Terrific" Family Circle Magazine
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... filled with powerful yet easy to apply methods that can really improve any type of relationship. I recommend this book wholeheartedly
- Michael Domeyko Rowland, author of Absolute Happiness
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... provides extremely useful advice for people living in long-term relationship. If we, readers, started to implement at least half of the ten rules, I am sure the world would change, beginning by our families.
- Pierre Cauvin, one of France’s foremost leadership coaches
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... a wonderfully simple, clear and practical book on relationship that will be of great help to anyone who reads it. It puts into perspective what a good relationship is about and shows the difference between living with another person and seriously partnering with another person. Astra has an ability to work with very profound ideas and translate them into language that makes them available to people with little psychological experience.
- Dr Hal Stone and Dr Sidra Stone, Founders of Voice Dialogue
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Simple and insightful… empowering advice
- Donna Duggan, WellBeing Magazine
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A little book that simplifies a very complicated issue into a revelation of understanding.
- Lynn Danaher, Reader
The Perfect Relationship
How to Grow and Heal With Your Partner
The 10 Steps
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Astra Niedra
Copyright 2021 Astra Niedra
Published by Voice Dialogue in Daily Life
2nd Edition
(1st Edition 2003, QA Publishing, ISBN: 0975053906 )
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Table of Contents
Introduction
Step 1
Step 2
Step 3
Step 4
Step 5
Step 6
Step 7
Step 8
Step 9
Step 10
Acknowledgements
Other Books by Astra Niedra
Introduction
The Perfect Relationship distils into ten steps the essential factors for a relationship that really works: The type of relationship that gets better and richer over time, where both partners support each other to grow into their whole selves, healing past wounds and unconscious patterns along the way.
The steps include powerful techniques, common-sense considerations, and leading-edge discoveries in relationship psychology that explain how people bond with one another at the deepest levels, and how that affects their relationship experiences.
I have been a facilitator and teacher of the personal growth work Voice Dialogue for 30 years. I have worked with both individuals and couples in my Voice Dialogue practice, and I have worked on my own relationship with my husband of nearly 30 years. I also have three (now adult) children, tertiary qualifications in education (including child development) and philosophy, a background in publishing, when I was once Editor of WellBeing magazine, which gave me access to many personal growth teachers and teachings. From my experience, the ten steps in this book are the basic requirements for a fulfilling, growing and lasting relationship.
I gave this book the title ‘The Perfect Relationship’ because deep down that’s what most of us want, and, in a sense, it’s also what we get – but we just don’t realise it.
Let me explain:
We imagine a perfect relationship is one with no problems, or at least problems that are easily solvable; a relationship where we are fully accepted for who we are; a relationship where passion and desire exists to the level and intensity that works for us; a relationship where we are always understood and loved, and in which we feel complete.
But the reality is this type of relationship simply does not unfold for most of us when we meet someone we are attracted to or fall in love with.
The reason relationships usually don’t turn out as we hope is that most of us don’t understand how relationships work, nor how we ourselves work, and so we don’t know what to do when inevitably issues arise.
Plus we have all had experiences that have diminished our ability to relate well. We have grown up in family situations where we have had to suppress parts of ourselves in order to be accepted into our particular family and culture. We have had to adapt in order to survive and thrive. That has led to over-identifying with some parts of ourselves and rejecting others.
That process is unavoidable – it is partly the necessary socialisation that has to take place in families and societies and partly because we all have unconscious biases and blind spots, no matter how enlightened we believe ourselves to be. It is how the human personality forms that some aspects of ourselves will