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    How to Cure a Commitment Phobic
    How to Cure a Commitment Phobic
    How to Cure a Commitment Phobic
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    How to Cure a Commitment Phobic

    By Lyn Kelley

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    New updated edition 2023. Dr. Lyn Kelley explains what a relationship commitment-phobic (CP) is and how one can be cured, or at least become committable. If there is any way to do it, this is the way! Lyn has over 20 years experience counseling and coaching couples, researching this topic, as well as her own experience and observing those of her friends. Lyn uses bold, honest, straight talk and tells it like it is.
    Chapter One: What is Commitment Phobia?
    Normal vs Irrational Fear
    How Severe is His Case?
    Lead With Your Head
    How to Use Your "Chi"
    Ambivalence and Inconsistency

    Chapter Two: How to Spot a Commitment Phobic Right Away
    Get Information
    Find Out What He Values
    Don't Take It Personally
    Be the Selector
    34 Red Flags

    Chapter Three: Can Commitment Phobics be Cured?
    How Good Jane Handles a CP
    Men Are Like Fish

    Chapter Four: How to Secure a Commitment From a Commitment Phobic
    The 5 Keys to Securing a Commitment From a CP
    Learn His Game
    Don't Give Away Your Jewels for Free
    Stop Paying Men to Have Sex With You
    Don't Be a Love-Sick Crack Addict
    Don't Be the Dead Deer on the Doorstep

    Chapter Five: How Your Five Guiding Forces Will Always Serve You Well
    Always Lead With Your Head
    How Your "Gut Instincts" Serve You
    How Your "Chi" Serves You
    How Your "Heart" Serves You
    How Your "Chemistry" Serves You
    How to Move On If He Can't Commit
    The 10 Commandments with CP's

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherLyn Kelley
    Release dateApr 15, 2010
    ISBN9781452394497
    How to Cure a Commitment Phobic
    Author

    Lyn Kelley

    As a Motivational Coach and Speaker, my goal is "to empower people move to the next level of success in their lives." Many people have asked for more information about me and why I am qualified to motivate others. So here's a little bit about me and how I got here. It all started back in Fresno, CA where I was born and raised. As a child I knew I had a calling to help people be happier and live better lives. I knew this because I was keenly observant of people. I observed people and how they lived their lives. At age 10 a friend's family invited me to a musical show called "Up With People!" This show had a major impact on me, and brought up my passion to help people be happier. Although my parents didn't care about my grades, I received all A's in school except I always failed Oral English. I couldn't get up in front of the class and speak. What kept me going in school was my desire for a career in the helping/teaching profession, so I could help others become more successful. The females in my family were discouraged from going to college, so higher education became my way of rebelling. I earned my B.A. in Education from CSU Fresno. During college I had some wonderful professors who took me under their wing and encouraged me to speak in class. I learned that I enjoyed teaching and actually had a gift that had previously been repressed. I went on to get my teaching credential and taught Jr. and Sr. High School for 7 years. I went from a shy little girl who couldn't speak in front of the class to a big girl who couldn't STOP speaking in front of the class! Teaching adolescents was an amazing experience! I found that I wanted to work with them more one-on-one, so I went back to college to become a counselor. I received my M.S. in Counseling/Psychology from the University of Miami and became licensed as a Marriage & Family Therapist. Initially I set out to get a wide range of experience. I worked in a children's psych hospital in dual diagnosis, managed a residential treatment program for severely emotionally disturbed teenage girls, conducted biofeedback therapy for a pain management center, and worked in social services in the areas of foster care, child abuse and family reunification. Once I became licensed I worked in a private counseling practice for 7 years. I specialized in relationship counseling. During this time I realized that coaching, writing and teaching were what I really loved to do, s...

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      How to Cure a Commitment Phobic - Lyn Kelley

      Thank You for purchasing this E-book!

      How to Cure a Commitment Phobic

      By Lyn Kelley

      Published by Lyn Kelley and distributed at Smashwords

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      Copyright 2023 GROW Publications

      Smashwords Edition, License Notes

      This e-book is licensed for your personal enjoyment only. This e-book may not be re-sold or given away to other people. If you would like to share this book with another person, please purchase an additional copy for each person. Thank you for respecting the hard work of this author.

      Welcome to

      Dr. Lyn Is In

      Author, Lyn Kelley, Ph.D., CPC

      Certified Professional Coach

      "My mission is to provide understanding, comfort, knowledge,

      wisdom and personal power in relationships."

      What others are saying about Dr. Lyn’s

      Dear Jane Series

      Dr. Kelley tells it like it is. I’ve read all of her books on relationships and feel I have grown by leaps and bounds due to her honest, straight, real information. She writes like she is talking to her best friend. All the strategies I’ve used so far that she suggests have worked for me! I feel so much more confident in dating now, and I’m not wasting time with men who are wrong for me. This was worth more than 100 times the cost of the books to me. I highly recommend her books.

      -- Tanya Murray, San Diego, CA

      I have read two of your books; The 12 Biggest Mistakes and How to Cure a Commitment Phobic. Both were brilliant and really well written. I really enjoyed them and will recommend them to my friends for sure.

      -- Michelle, Worcestershire, UK

      Lyn Kelley has done a superlative job of explaining why people fail at their relationships and how they can stop this self-sabotage. She explains how to know which men are ‘manageable’ and which men are not. She gives concrete, simple ways to get even the most difficult men to surrender to you. She showed me how I was actually pushing men away from me rather than moving them toward me. I now know what I’ve been doing wrong and am committed to changing myself! I highly recommend this book.

      -- Michelle Rodriguez, Orlando, FL

      Dr. Lyn explains the controlling and manipulative personality in a way that I could understand. I now know the tactics they use and will never again be taken by them! I feel much more confidant to stand up for myself now – not just with men but with anyone who tries to control or manipulate me. The tips I got were worth way more than the cost of this book.

      -- Kristin Anne, San Diego, CA

      Dear Dr. Lyn,

      I just wanted to let you know how amazing and accurate your book is (10 Secrets to Getting Any Man You Want to Want YOU). This book answered all of my questions and I realized what I was doing wrong. Forget women are from Venus and blah blah blah. YOUR BOOK SAYS IT ALL! Thank you.

      -- Katie Rox

      See Dr. Lyn’s Author Page:

      http://www.smashwords.com/profile/view/growpu

      More e-Books by Dr. Lyn distributed at

      http://www.smashwords.com/

      Dear Jane Series:

      Book 1: The 12 Biggest Mistakes Women Make in Dating & Love Relationships

      Book 2: How to Cure a Commitment-Phobic

      Book 3: How to Turn a Player into a Stayer

      Book 4: Controlling and Manipulative Men: How to Spot Them and Handle Them

      Book 5: Self-Centered and Narcissistic Men: How to Spot Them and Handle Them

      Book 6: Addicted Men – Drugs, Alcohol, Porn and More: How to Spot Them and Handle Them

      Book 7: Low Achieving Men - Passives, Wimps, Dreamers: How to Spot Them and Handle Them

      Book 8: Cheap Men: How to Spot Them and Handle Them

      Book 9: Men who Lie and Cheat: How to Spot Them and Handle Them

      Book 10: Emotionally Unavailable Men: How to Spot Them and Handle Them

      Book 11: The Romantic Terrorist: Protect Yourself from Stalking, Harassment, Bullying and Threats

      Book 12: How to Get Any Man You Want to Want YOU

      Book 13: The 10 Biggest Mistakes Men Make in Dating & Love Relationships

      Book 14: How to Break Up, Survive and Thrive

      Book 15: Bad Dick, Good Jane: How Good Girls Get Bad Boys to Behave, Fall in Love and Commit

      New Release!

      Bad Dick, Good Jane:

      How Good Girls Get Bad Boys to Behave, Fall in Love, and Commit

      Other Self-Help Books by Lyn Kelley:

      How to Stick With Your Diet & Exercise Program

      How to Motivate People! The 3 Magic Keys to Unlock Anyone’s Hidden Motivation

      The 7 Self-Sabotages: Why People Sabotage Themselves and How to Stop It

      How to Become Your Own Life Coach in 12 Easy Steps

      Stalking 101: Everything You Need to Know to Keep Yourself Safe

      How to Motivate Yourself: Secrets of the Motivational Superstars

      The Magic of Detachment: How to Detach from Other People and Their Problems

      Thousands of Angels: Your Guide to Spiritual Empowerment, Peace and Abundance

      One Day She Woke Up and Decided to be Brave: A Woman’s Journey from Fear to Courage

      She Said She Would Be Rich and They Believed Her: Mastering the Abundance Mindset

      I offer telephone and email coaching.

      Contact me to set up an appointment!

      lyn@janesgoodadvice.com

      Learn more about Dr. Lyn and Relationship Coaching and sign up for her FREE Dear Jane Advice Column at

      www.janesgoodadvice.com

      Follow Dr. Lyn:

      Facebook: http://facebook.com/ lyn.kelley1

      Twitter: http://wefollow.com/JanesGoodAdvice

      LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/drlynisin

      See Dr. Lyn’s YouTube videos:

      The Biggest Mistake Women Make in Dating and Love Relationships:

      http://youtu.be/-- aGjh3WgPc

      Is He a Commitment Phobic?

      http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cLCqQHzmNOA

      How to Stick With Your Diet and Exercise Program:

      http://youtu.be/SEJvHJkKtSM

      Bad Dick, Good Jane

      http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QYQenwJdfW4

      The Magic of Detachment

      https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bUSsaTq6Clo

      Controlling and Manipulative Men

      https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gc6LGkonSr8

      Emotionally Unavailable Men

      https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yXUBBE7MgLo

      Self Centered & Narcissistic Men

      https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5lMDvDF2r1o

      How to Cure a Commitment Phobic

      By Lyn Kelley, Ph.D., MFT, CPC

      Table of Contents

      Introduction:

      Chapter One: What is Commitment Phobia?

      What is Commitment Phobia?

      Normal vs Irrational Fear

      How Severe is His Case?

      Lead With Your Head

      How to Use Your Chi

      Ambivalence and Inconsistency

      Chapter Two: How to Spot a Commitment Phobic Right Away

      Get Information

      Find Out What He Values

      Don’t Take It Personally

      Be the Selector

      34 Red Flags

      Chapter Three: Can Commitment Phobics be Cured?

      How Good Jane Handles a CP

      Men Are Like Fish

      Chapter Four: How to Secure a Commitment From a Commitment Phobic

      The 5 Keys to Securing a Commitment From a CP

      Learn His Game

      Don’t Give Away Your Jewels for Free

      Stop Paying Men to Have Sex With You

      Don’t Be a Love-Sick Crack Addict

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