Surviving Narcissistic Abuse
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Narcissism is a personality flaw that has profoundly destructive effects on interpersonal relationships. This book written by an experienced Clinical Psychologist and Psychotherapist describes narcissistic traits and details their impact on different relationships. The book uses examples and notes from psychotherapy cases, to outline strategies to manage narcissistic personalities.
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Reviews for Surviving Narcissistic Abuse
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- Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Very helpful quick read but it’s such a complex subject. I’m recovering from some seriously toxic friends, bosses and family members. It’s a slow process and hard because they are such reptiles they like to make me out to be the toxic party when I’ve been all giving, and their actions have left me destitute. I have also just experienced triangulation so badly that it makes me feel I’m toxic by feeling possessive. Then, one friend currently establishing boundaries, recently attacked me when I was laying in bed with fever and in pain when she invited me to stay with her, complaining I was using her and saying she resented me sleeping in a bed she usually slept in etc so clearly none of this is for beginners. I ended the friendship but no doubt she thinks that’s narcissistic!
- Rating: 2 out of 5 stars2/5Talks about stages and boundaries but no info or examples on getting there.
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Surviving Narcissistic Abuse - Dr. Linda Basson
Surviving Narcissistic Abuse
Dr Linda Basson
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Copyright 2013 Dr Linda Basson
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Table of Contents
Introduction
What are defense mechanisms?
What are narcissistic defenses?
Projection
Splitting, idealization and devaluation
Descriptions of various toxic relationships
Narcissistic mothers
Narcissistic mothers and engulfment
Toxic mothers and triangulation
The narcissistic mother spins her web: the narcissistic set-up
The narcissistic spouse
Toxic friends
Surviving narcissistic relationships and working through narcissistic abuse
Beyond awareness and labeling
Where was Dad?
Leaving the toxic marriage
Toxic relationships and boundaries
Boundaries and toxic mothers-in-law
The power of prediction
Formulating the boundaries
References
Introduction
Healthcare professionals use the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders Fourth Edition Text-Revision (DSM-IV-TR), to assist with the diagnosis of various mental conditions ranging from mood disorders such as Depression, to anxiety-based disorders such as Obsessive Compulsive Disorder and to psychotic disorders such as Schizophrenia. There are also diagnostic criteria for the various personality disorders, but as a private practitioner I do not necessarily formulate a formal diagnosis for every person I see. Quite often I see clients who do not wear a label themselves, but who are involved with people who do. It is commonplace in private practice to work with clients who were or who are in troubled relationships, and who are seeking guidance to understand the web they are or were entangled in. These relationships could be with parents, spouses, siblings, friends, children or even co-workers.
As a private practitioner, I am not always overly pedantic about my client's formal diagnosis. I work with the symptoms and what the client presents to me, without worrying about whether they necessarily fit the diagnostic criteria for a particular disorder or not. As an example, if someone says that they are always depressed and if they describe the various symptoms of depression then I would certainly label the condition and give it a name but without necessarily formalizing the diagnosis. This may be more important for the General Practitioner or Psychiatrist who may wish to prescribe medication.
Of particular interest to this book is the group of people who are victims of personality disorders, particularly Narcissistic Personality Disorder and Anti-Social Personality Disorder. Many people seek counseling because they are perplexed by their relationships with significant others. Quite often they may present with anxiety or depression and it may only become evident at a later stage during the counseling process that their problems arise from dysfunctional relationships.
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