Laughter, Tears, Silence: Expressive Meditations to Calm Your Mind and Open Your Heart
By Pragito Dove
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Pragito Dove
Using the principles she teaches, Pragito Dove transformed her fear and grief into joy and inner peace. Dove is president of Discover Meditation Training Inc., a cutting-edge meditation training company. She trained extensively as a meditation master and spiritual teacher at the Osho Multiversity, Pune, India. She holds a master's degree in education from London University and certification as a Master Hypnotherapist and a Professional Hypnotherapy Instructor. Her first book, Lunchtime Enlightenment (Penguin Group, 2001), was published in five languages. An experienced trainer and facilitator, she has provided meditation training to organizations including the University of California San Francisco Cancer Resource Center, Hill Physicians Medical Group, the San Francisco Chronicle, NASA, Peak Potentials Training Inc., the John C. Lincoln Hospital, United Health Care, World Laughter Tour Inc., the Association of Applied Therapeutic Humor, Autodesk, and the National Association of Women Business Owners. She lives in Marin County, California. Visit her website at www.pragito.com.
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No matter what you think about meditation, read this book. It offers a revolutionary look at a perennial topic and insight and suggestions that can stimulate anyone toward a deeper experience of inner peace, love, and joy.
— Marcia Wieder, CEO and founder of Dream University®
Pragito Dove makes meditation fun for anyone. Her experience spans decades and she can help you discover your passion, live with courage, see your confidence explode and your creativity awaken.
— David Wood, senior vice president and chief training officer of Isagenix International
For over twenty years, I have been involved in the therapeutic humor arena. I have also worked with people who were dying and I practice Vipassana meditation. I have never thought of connecting these seemingly diverse elements. Yet, in a very masterful way, Pragito Dove has not only connected them but she also provides many easy-to-use meditative techniques that help you see the value in laughter, tears, and silence, and also help you find joy and peace in your life.
— Allen Klein, author of The Healing Power of Humor and The Courage to Laugh
The strength and simplicity of Pragito’s insights and encouragement, her brilliant tapestry of techniques and extraordinary understanding allow her to work at great depth yet with lightness. Powerful, life-changing meditations are made accessible through Pragito’s calm grace, compassion, generosity, and clarity. Working with the meditations in this practical, engaging book feels like walking an important path with a kind, loving, gentle, very wise guide at my side.
— Steve Wilson, founder of World Laughter Tour, Inc.
Pragito Dove’s meditations are an invitation to come home to that ‘quiet place’ that offers rest and restoration far from the rapid pace of modern life. Her book is truly transformational, jam-packed with insights and wisdom ... useful and empowering.
— Ann J. Mincey, vice president of global communications (retired) of Redken 5th Avenue NYC and author of Get Glowing
"Laughter, Tears, Silence breaks the stereotype by introducing alternate techniques that promote active expression as well as silence. By unlocking your own laughter, tears, and inner peace you are catapulted into long-lasting joy and can experience the full spectrum of a vibrant life."
— Saranne Rothberg, CEO of the ComedyCures Foundation and stage IV cancer survivor
Pragito Dove’s approach takes into account the stress of modern life, and her meditations are tailor-made for those looking for ways to become more attuned to each moment of each day.
— Deva Premal and Miten, musicians and recording artists
LAUGHTER,
TEARS,
SILENCE
LAUGHTER,
TEARS,
SILENCE
Expressive Meditations to
Calm Your Mind
and Open Your Heart
PRAGITO DOVE
New World Library
Novato, California
Copyright © 2010 by Pragito Dove
All rights reserved. This book may not be reproduced in whole or in part, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means — electronic, mechanical, or other — without written permission from the publisher, except by a reviewer, who may quote brief passages in a review.
Text design by Tona Pearce Myers
Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Dove, Pragito.
Laughter, tears, silence : expressive meditations to calm your mind and open
your heart/Pragito Dove.
p. cm.
Includes bibliographical references and index.
ISBN 978-1-57731-683-1 (pbk.: alk. paper)
1. Meditation. 2. Osho, 1931–1990. I. Title.
BP605.R342D678 2010
204’.35—dc22 2009049579
First printing, February 2010
ISBN978-1-57731-683-1
Printed in Canada on 100% postconsumer-waste recycled paper
New World Library is a proud member of the Green Press Initiative.
10 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1
To you, my reader:
May your life be filled with love, joy, and success
Contents
List of Meditations
Introduction
Part I: Laughter
The Healing Power of Laughter
Hotei: The Laughing Buddha
Play
The Art of Celebration
Gratitude
Children
Mary Poppins
Laughter and Tears: The Osho Mystic Rose Meditation
Additional Meditations for Laughter
Part II: Tears
Still Waters Run Deep: Emotional Clearing
Acceptance
Grief
Disappointment
Jealousy
Fear
Death and Dying
Forgiveness
Compassion
Additional Meditations for Tears
Part III: Silence
From Thought to No-Thought: A Silent Mind
Relaxation
Nonjudgment
Witnessing
Opening the Heart: Silence in Love
Drunk with the Divine: The Silence of the Soul
The Business Owner’s Tale: Silence at Work
Longer Silence Meditations
Additional Meditations for Silence
Part IV: Moving Forward
The New You!
Take Action
Getting Started: Three-, Seven-, and Twenty-One-Day Plans
Open Your Heart and Share
Acknowledgments
Notes
Index
About the Author
Meditations
Introduction
The Three Essentials (four-minute)
Part I: Laughter
Let Go of Ego
Laughter (expressive)
Sit under a Tree (four-minute)
Enjoy Yourself! (four-minute)
Feel Joy Rising in Your Heart (four-minute)
Playfulness Is Here Now (four-minute)
Living a Life of Joy (four-minute)
Dropping Guilt (four-minute)
Celebrate Yourself (four-minute)
Balancing Quietude and Activity (four-minute)
Celebrate Rejection (four-minute)
Yes! Yes! Yes!
Dancing (expressive)
Contentment
Effortless Effort (four-minute)
Focus on the Good (four-minute)
You Are Unique (four-minute)
Children’s Two-Minute Expressive Meditation: Laughter
More Children’s Two-Minute Expressive Meditations
Snap! The Job’s a Game (four-minute)
Gather Moments of Joy (four-minute)
The Osho Mystic Rose (expressive)
The Law of Attraction (four-minute)
Paradise Now (four-minute)
Inner Smile (four-minute)
Prosperity (four-minute)
Part II: Tears
Gibberish (expressive)
The Osho Dynamic (expressive)
Acceptance (four-minute)
Don’t Ask Why (four-minute)
Befriend Yourself (four-minute)
Facing Your Grief
Walking in Nature
Let It Be (four-minute)
The Beauty of Grief
Understanding Your Pain
Healing Pain (four-minute)
The Value of Friends
Expectation and Disappointment (four-minute)
Look into Your Jealousy (four-minute)
Start Loving!
Name Your Fears (four-minute)
Moving through Fear (four-minute)
Facing Fear (four-minute)
Love Transcends Death
Live in This Moment (four-minute)
Know Life, Know Death (four-minute)
Being with the Dying
Focus on Love
Karuna
Develop Compassion for Yourself
Cherish Yourself, Cherish Others (four-minute)
Picture Yourself as a Child (four-minute)
Confusion (four-minute)
Prayer (four-minute)
Courage (four-minute)
Emotional Balance (four-minute)
Part III: Silence
Creating a Haven
One-Minute Gibberish (expressive)
Watch Rush Hour Go By (four-minute)
A Cup of Silent Tea (four-minute)
Shaking (expressive)
Humming (expressive)
Breathe (four-minute)
Slow Down Every Process (four-minute)
Sit and Do Nothing (four-minute)
Smile Gently When You Breathe (four-minute)
Nonjudgment
Walking down the Street (four-minute)
Looking without Judging (four-minute)
Listen to Music
Vipassana
Opening to Self-Love (four-minute)
How Do I Love? (four-minute)
Sixty-Second Stop
Two Kinds of Love (four-minute)
Emphasis on the Heart (four-minute)
Music as Meditation (four-minute)
Feel Yourself in the Center of Sound (four-minute)
Emails
An Evening of Silence
Silence at Home (twenty-four hours)
Thirty-Second Stop
Sit Silently and Wait (four-minute)
Stillness (four-minute)
Silence of the Night (four-minute)
Part IV: Moving Forward
Be Open to Experiencing (four-minute)
Befriend Failure (four-minute)
Running
Jogging
Working Out
Introduction
Do you sometimes feel that things are so chaotic around you that you can’t find your way to inner peace and calm? The idea for this book came to me one day when I felt surrounded by family craziness and was able to drop down into a still, silent place within and just allow everything to be the way it was. I found balance in the midst of chaos.
From my years of experience with the meditation techniques in this book, I have discovered that we can all be like a still pond in the midst of a hurricane — the surface waters are slightly ruffled, but at the bottom all is calm, silent, and still. From this place no sound can disturb us; no chaos, inner or outer, can pull us off balance. When we are rooted in our inner silence we cannot be tossed around like a ship without an anchor. We can surf the waves, enjoying the ride, with our anchor of silence to ground us.
Through the techniques in this book you unburden yourself from mental overload, emotional turmoil, and physical stress — and you can have fun doing it! As these disturbances are gradually released from your body and mind, you begin to experience the serenity of the silence that lies hidden underneath.
Before I found the meditation techniques in this book, I often felt out of control. My childhood was difficult and painful, and by the time I was in my twenties I was a mess. My mother ruled our household through fear. Being her child was often a terrifying and intimidating experience. Saturday and Sunday lunches were the worst. The family sat at the dining table until everyone had finished eating. I longed for some noise, some distraction that would take the attention away from me and the brussels sprouts I hated. My father wouldn’t have minded if I didn’t eat them, I’m sure, but he was as afraid of my mother as my sister and I were. Unspoken anger pervaded the silence. The lunch table was supposed to be a place for us to be together, yet no one was comfortable or happy.
My problems weren’t confined to mealtimes. My mother was difficult to please and had sudden bursts of inexplicable rage. She could be kind one moment, an invective-spewing tyrant the next. She had a habit of gliding silently around the house in soft-soled slippers and suddenly coming into my room to surprise
me. I was terrified because I never knew when she might suddenly spring up and verbally attack me in some way. Living with her was like living in a war zone, and I felt in constant danger. I didn’t know how to fight this war. It was a constant game of hide and dodge. It wasn’t until she was ninety-four years old that my mother was diagnosed with a psychotic illness and agreed to take medication.
The turning point for me came when my son was born. Have you ever experienced a pivotal moment when you made a life-altering decision? I realized that unless I took myself in hand and committed to self-healing, I would transmit to him the anger, pain, and fear that had built up inside me like a dormant volcano waiting to explode. I did not want to put him through what I had experienced, so I started searching for techniques that would help me. I never considered meditation because I thought it meant sitting in silence with a rigid back for hours on end, and that was the last thing I felt like doing. Then I heard about the range of expressive meditation techniques created by twentieth-century mystic Osho, including the Osho Mystic Rose meditation, Osho Dynamic, Dancing, and Shaking, and I decided they were worth a try They worked! They were not only doable but also fun, and they awoke in me the long-buried joyful person who was longing to be happy, creative, loving, and loved. The rest, as they say, is history.
This book covers a range of techniques that follow no one tradition but draw on many These include the unique expressive meditation techniques created by Osho, cutting-edge combinations of expression and stillness designed to help relieve the mental, physical, and emotional stresses of our noisy, hectic lifestyles and bring us in touch with our inner silence. Various Sufi techniques that explore the meeting of movement, sound, and silence are presented, as well as Buddhist, Tibetan Buddhist, Gurdjieffian, and other Eastern and Western practices. Throughout you will also find tales drawn from various people’s experiences with laughter, tears, and silence. These stories are included to inspire and encourage you to find your own way to that silent place we all have within us, where we can rest with a sense of the absolute serenity and completeness of each moment.
How This Book Is Organized
Laughter, humor, and enjoyment of life come first, in part 1, because they are the easiest. No skill is needed, and there are no rules. Laughter is something you already know how to do — it’s simply a matter of degree, of bringing more lightness into your life.
Although I’m sure you know that laughter is good for you, you might feel that you have nothing to laugh about, and you may even feel more like crying. Whether you are going through a difficult phase or just feel that life is hard, laughing might seem impossible. If this is the case, then part 2, which offers deeper practices to heal pain and grief, might resonate more with you right now. Getting out from under the weight of sorrow that you may have carried around for years brings deep relaxation, more love, and inner peace.
As you allow more laughter and tears into your life you are creating an even greater capacity for silence, peace, and spiritual nurturing. In part 3 we look at the many benefits of silence and silence practices. Attaining balance isn’t always easy, but that doesn’t mean we can’t have it. It means we have to adjust our thinking and discover new, creative ways to find it. Silence is a powerful force for our well-being. It is that place inside us where wisdom, clarity, and calm reside. We can discover our passions and find meaning, purpose, and joy.
Finally, in part 4, I offer encouragement, inspiration, and practical plans to help you implement what you have discovered in this book. It’s one thing to read the book but quite another to bring our dreams into reality. Otherwise they remain just that — dreams. As the new you emerges and unfolds you can step into the reality of your wishes, hopes, and dreams coming true, because they can!
In each part you will find different types of meditation techniques: expressive meditations (some of these require more time commitment), four-minute meditations, and some that are simply called meditations because they can be done in any amount of time.
Meditation and You
Meditation is not something apart from your everyday life; it is a quality, a way of being. Any activity done with awareness is meditation. It is not the activity that is important but your awareness as you do the activity. For example, when you take your morning shower, are you fully present? Or are you thinking about the day ahead? When you are fully present, enjoying the hot water on your body refreshing and invigorating you, then meditation is present. You can apply this focus of being fully present to any activity. Then you will be able to easily and naturally incorporate meditation into your day.
The purpose here is not to cut yourself off from life but rather to enter more deeply and fully into it. Through laughter, tears, and silence you can bring a more authentic quality to your relationships. You can experience both being alone with yourself and being with others in a more deeply fulfilling way. Contrary to what many people believe, meditation and relationships are not mutually exclusive. In fact, they enhance each other. When you spend time alone getting to know yourself, you are then available for more authentic togetherness with others.
Inner peace is possible for us all. My intention here is to show you how to discover the joy, wisdom, and silence that reside within you. Meditation is not a technique. Rather, the techniques are there to serve as a bridge to bring you home to your authentic self. Meditation is where we arrive (our destination), and the techniques are how we get there (our vehicle(s) of choice for the journey).
These techniques link the sacred in us with our day-to-day existence. We are spiritual beings in a physical body. We don’t want to be in denial either of our spirituality or of our physicality because then we are not whole; we are divided. It is this division that creates stress, dis-ease, and unhappiness, an inner fight. My intention is to show you how to come to wholeness, to bring you to a peaceful coexistence within yourself.
There are three essentials to any meditation technique: relaxation (more on p. 127), nonjudgment (more on p. 138), and witnessing (more on p. 142). I have included a short technique here as an example of what is to come and to help you get started. Over time, as you get used to this technique, and as your understanding of what meditation is and what it is not deepens, you will naturally and easily be able to incorporate the three essentials into your practices and into your life.
FOUR-MINUTE MEDITATION: The Three Essentials
BENEFITS
As you make a regular practice of the three essentials (you can start with one minuteaday), you willfind yourself discoveringadeep calm, relaxation, and inner peace that permeate your entire day.
The Three Essentials contains three vital components. First, allow the body to be relaxed. Second, witness with a relaxed awareness whatever is going on, without any interference, without any fight with the mind, any attempt to control the mind, any concentration. Third, watch the mind and your emotions, silently, without any judgments or evaluation.
When you incorporate these three things, slowly, slowly, a great silence descends over you. Start now for one minute, sit with eyes closed, body relaxed and watch with no judgment.
Meditation is awareness. It’s that simple. It’s about living in the here and now instead of allowing the mind to take you into the future or the past. The techniques in this book help you come into the present and integrate body and spirit. Whether it’s through laughter, tears, or silence, or all three, you find your own way home. It was the laughter and expressive techniques that showed me that meditation can be fun. My definition of a spiritual person is someone who is spirited, has a zest for life out of the sheer joy of being alive in her body. This kind of positive vibration enhances the quality of your life and the lives of those around you. Further, I have discovered a powerful connection between meditation and focus that I would like to share with you now.
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