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Deal Breakers: When to Work on a Relationship and When to Walk Away
Written by Dr. Bethany Marshall
Narrated by Renée Raudman
Rating: 4.5 out of 5 stars
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About this audiobook
This is a book about men. Not all men, just emotionally unhealthy men. The ones who make you question, "Is it him or is it me? Am I making too big a deal out of this? I try to tell him how I feel, but he says I'm overreacting or needy or it's all my fault." Relationships are hard work, but how hard should they be? When do you know you are struggling too hard to make a relationship succeed?
Deal Breakers is about getting out of this "relationship purgatory"-where the present is unfulfilling and the future is the only thing you can hope for. But there is no magic future. If he won't work on problems today it's unlikely they'll ever be resolved. And passively hoping for change will only cost you years of depression or expensive therapy.
Dr. Bethany Marshall is here to remind women that relationships-like business relationships-are deals. In the business world a deal breaker is the one non-negotiable term that, if not agreed to, means the deal is off. But in the world of relationships, identifying your deal breaker can be much more promising, as it holds out the possibility of helping you to understand where the relationship has gone wrong, what needs to be done in order to make it better, and when to walk away because you're doing more work than him to fix it.
By defining your deal breaker, you hold all the power to create the happiness you deserve.
Deal Breakers is about getting out of this "relationship purgatory"-where the present is unfulfilling and the future is the only thing you can hope for. But there is no magic future. If he won't work on problems today it's unlikely they'll ever be resolved. And passively hoping for change will only cost you years of depression or expensive therapy.
Dr. Bethany Marshall is here to remind women that relationships-like business relationships-are deals. In the business world a deal breaker is the one non-negotiable term that, if not agreed to, means the deal is off. But in the world of relationships, identifying your deal breaker can be much more promising, as it holds out the possibility of helping you to understand where the relationship has gone wrong, what needs to be done in order to make it better, and when to walk away because you're doing more work than him to fix it.
By defining your deal breaker, you hold all the power to create the happiness you deserve.
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Reviews for Deal Breakers
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- Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Quick, easy, and to the point, Deal Breakers outlines the ins and outs of bad boys' bad behavior, how to deal, and when to let go. While Marshall is full of insight and good advice, the book is plagued with Stuff You Already Know. Innovative it isn't, but enjoyable and useful all the same.Rating: B+
3 people found this helpful
- Rating: 2 out of 5 stars2/5This book describes five different types of men; the Scriptwriter, the Man in Charge, the Man Without Faults, the Invisible Man, and the Little Boy who Poses as a Man. Each man is described with and includes stories of couples that have come in for therapy/counseling.
Each category/chapter gives scenarios and what is workable and what are deal breakers/walk away.
The last chapter on healthy men is basic common sense; are his words backed up by action? does he make you feel good or bad? he will like you for who you are, etc., etc.
Basically, women need to know their value and demand more of themselves and from men. Let's bring the bar back up to better standards.3 people found this helpful
- Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5This addressed a broader scope of relationships than I expected (which is good). I thought it might be exclusively concerned with the very beginning of relationship, and determining from the get-go whether a guy's traits or behaviour is workable or not. It isn't. I also thought it might fail to address some more serious issues such as addiction and abuse. It doesn't. In that sense, it's a quite comprehensive approach. It's not that long but there's a lot of food for thought. And It's delivered in a straight-forward manner. I think the author had a lot of insight to offer.
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- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Really an eye opener. Very useful info! Every woman needs to read!
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- Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Very good book, with lots of insights. I would have liked a bit more in depth analysis of the person that enters in a relationship with these kinds of personalities. But overall an excellent read (or audiobook in my case).
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- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5I loved it . Well written and very true .
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5I love the part that author clearly suggests when to work on it or walk away as identifying deal breakers
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5When I first saw this but I didn't think it was going to be what I was looking for but after months and months of having it in my list I finally decided to read it. I wish I would have met sooner because it helps a lot.
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Every girl over 12 yo has to listen to this book! It’s sad to see that SO many girls stay in a wrong relationship when they can be happy!
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Amazing insights. This has helped immensely define my boundaries and deal breakers. Thank you!
- Rating: 3 out of 5 stars3/5Devyn and Riley are best friends-- they survived four years of college together. Devyn is focused on graduation and the paid internship that awaits her. Riley is headed to grad school, but he had fun in college as well, including a string of non-serious girlfriends. Riley's not exactly known for monogamy. However, before they head their separate ways, Devyn has one request of Riley - she wants him to help her lose her virginity (yes, seriously). She doesn't want to head into the next phase of her life a virgin and she thinks Riley is the perfect person to assist. Riley is thrilled to help, of course, and plans a special evening. But will that special night change everything for Devyn and Riley?
First of all, I don't know why I keep reading these "New Adult" books. This genre apparently exists on stereotypes and tropes and the ending is basically transparent. In my defense, I picked it up after reading two tough books, with a lot of murder and darkness. Sometimes you just need a fluff book to lighten things up.
For instance, sample dialogue: "I may have just jizzed in my pants a little. How can a woman this hot possibly know football? I think I'm in love." We're not even going to talk about all the things wrong with this.
Still, this book was more compelling than some of the recent New Adult books I've read. If you like New Adult, you'll enjoy this book - it's a fast read and somewhat cute. If you're like me and still adjusting to the genre, you'll roll your eyes at a good deal of the plot and dialogue, but potentially still enjoy the quickness and silliness of it all. 2.5 - 3 stars depending where you fall on the spectrum
(I received an ARC of this novel from Netgalley in return for an unbiased review.) - Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Awesome story! A friends to lovers story that definitely had me smiling throughout.
Riley and Devyn meet freshman year. Devyn quickly friend zones Riley and they stay close all through college. Right before graduation, Devyn confesses to Riley that she is still an virgin and she wants him to help her out with that!! Scared by the intense feelings from that night, Riley takes off right after graduation. Now he's back and determined to win Devyn's heart. Problem is Devyn might have been keeping a little secret of her own!
Very well done with a great group of characters. I really enjoyed this one and I think you will too. I highly recommend it.