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Why ‘Trying Harder’ To Prioritize Yourself Just Doesn’t Work

Why 'Trying Harder' To Prioritize Yourself Just Doesn't Work by Leila Ansart. Photograph of a woman photographing herself in the mirror by Kinga Chichewicz.
Photograph by Kinga Chichewicz

For many, prioritizing others is our natural instinct. To shift focus onto ourselves requires some inner reprogramming, but can be profoundly important

When you’re drowning in all the things you do for everyone else, it’s time to hit pause and consider these three truths:

1. The majority of our daily behavior is coming from an unconscious place

That is to say, it happens automatically. We respond to stressors in our businesses, perceived messages from others, and even cues from our own bodies

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