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How To Talk About Sex (And Consent): 4 Lessons From The Kink Community

A lot of us stumble over conversations about sex. But people who are into kink make an art of talking about what they want or don't want. Here's their advice for making awkward talks sexy.
Talking about sex and consent can be awkward, but it's important — learning to do it better can help make sure that everyone is on the same page and also that you have the kind of sex that you want to have, whether that involves handcuffs or not. Source: Nicole Xu for NPR

I don't remember when the concept of consent as it relates to sex became part of my vocabulary, but it shapes how I approach my personal relationships and affects the way I move through the world. I was shaken when the #MeToo Movement exploded, not only by the stories of sexual assault and harassment, but also by the stories of women who had felt pressured or coerced into having sex they didn't want.

I flashed back to my own similarly uncomfortable experiences, when I was single and new to D.C. I remembered times on dates when I'd expressed my discomfort by simply pulling away or turning my head when a guy tried to kiss or touch me when I didn't want to be kissed or touched. I was familiar with the sickening feeling of being distressed by something that was happening, while also feeling unable or hesitant to speak up for myself.

It's been on my mind a lot recently, how I, like so many people, have been socialized not to

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