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Understanding Codependency and Breaking the Cycle of Self Betrayal

Understanding Codependency and Breaking the Cycle of Self Betrayal, by Laura Bishop. Photograph of two people on couch by Ben White

Photograph by Ben White

Being in a codependent relationship is painful and dysfunctional, but it’s possible to break the cycle

Who can relate to the pain and suffering that comes from loving an addict? What about the feeling of powerlessness associated with being part of a dysfunctional family unit?

If you’re nodding yes or raising your hand, I see you.

Being in a relationship with someone struggling, whether or not it’s a family member, romantic partner or friend, may be one of the most challenging aspects of addiction, life, and recovery. Feelings of fear, sadness, hopelessness, anger, resentment, disappointment, expectation, and emotional exhaustion are hard to avoid, nearly inescapable.

Oftentimes there is a great deal

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